how to get relief from tension/control anger/behave calmly and happily with kids?

Answer 1

make sure you have special time for yourself, to relax and get centered so to speak. that might be in the morning before everybody gets up or in the evening etc... deep breathing techniques relieve stress, exercise relieves stress and increase endorphines (the happy chemical).
remember that when you get angry and let that anger out by yelling, spanking or whatever means you do it shows the children that you are out of control... the people with the most control are calm and gentle..that doesn't mean they aren't stressed, but they manage it and by managing it they keep control and children respect them and listen better.
wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

It is great that you recognize that managing anger is necessary around kids.
There are support lines (telephone) for parents in most communities, if you feel you are really losing it.
There are parenting support classes in most communities.
But if you want to work on this yourself, one thing I would suggest is to realize that the sources of your frustration may be many other things in addition to the kids. and for you to try and reduce some of those things: for example: if we have no time to ourselves, besides work and parenting; if there are worries about money, work, family, partners; if we were verbally abused ourselves, when we were children.

Both kids and parents sometimes need a time out to get a breather.

It helps to be able to laugh at yourself and to notice the good in what you do and what your kids do. so often, we focus on the bad instead of the good. your kids are only young once. the days may seem to drag, but the years will fly by, and you will want to have fond memories of this time.

You will never regret making the effort to be a good parent; but you would regret it if you are an angry parent.

Love your kids!

Answer 3

Dear Kumud,

First of all I feel that you are very complex and possessive person. I have gone through most of your questions where `I' has an important role and `we' seldom appears.
Your solutions, according to me, are very simple and within your active domain. Please do the following:

1. Understand your limitations, your childrens limitations and limitations of others in the family
2. Think positively and never allow negetivism to manage your time and efforts.
3. Give a pat and apprciation to all in the family for their little success or contributions.
4. Never shower your frustrations and anxieties on the children especially.
5. Take your m-in-law in to confidence and make her to share your roles and responsibilities. Of course give her enough space in the family.
6. Find time to play with children, take them out, buy small gifts to them and attend their school functions regularly.

7. Restrict your TV time so that children find you when they need.

OK. best of luck.
kuttan

Answer 4

One choice, try to ACT angry before you really get angry and lose your temper.

Never threaten what you won't do. Sign of weakness. Appropriate punishments. Positive encouragement, rewards for better behavior.

Just tickle them. Blow flutter blasts on the belly until they agree to behave.

Alternatives may be a future heart attack from stress.

Answer 5

Medication. Seriously.

Answer 6

Meditation and Yoga have proved to the world that
they are superior to other methods. You can check
with any other person who practices them.