I am not for abortion at all and I would rather die than have one, but...?

Question

if your baby had harlequin disorder and it was the worst one out there and the dr said that the baby would be in agony from pain from the skin cracking and you either could have an abortion to minimize the pain before the neurons and nerves could feel much of it, or you could have it and watch it suffer until it died, trying to comfort it with holding and feeding, what would you do? I don't think I would be strong enough to have the abortion, but to watch it suffer, they'd have to take me away after. I'd never have children again. What would you do? I've seen videos of one crying and moving it's arms and legs on youtube.com . It broke my heart and I thank God that my baby is normal in every way, I'm so lucky. I pray they find a cure for it. I can't stop crying.

Answer 1

No matter what happends I'm not gonna have an abortion. Having a fetus die because of "murder" is way more worse than the baby dying of an illness. I would cry so much my bones will dry up but It's up to GOD with whatever happends. I won't risk myself and my fertility to kill my child. I will then bury my child. I won't have the doctor after the abortion just throw it away like a piece of garbage. But this is my opinion.

Answer 2

I'm definitely against abortion, but in this case I would have to do it. I would rather live with the fact that I had an abortion than have to live with the fact that I let my baby suffer in agony. It's just so sad. I watched a video on YouTube also & whoever put it up there made the title something like "Demon Baby!" I couldn't believe it. It's extremely sad, but it's also extremely rare so I doubt anyone will ever find a cure for it. All you can do is hope & pray!

Answer 3

I don't think anyone is really FOR abortion, y'know? But it IS about choice ... I have two children, and I thank God every day that they are normal and healthy. But, faced with that decision, I honestly think I would have the abortion. I wouldn't want to bring a baby into the world with the certainty that it would know only fear and pain.

I have a feeling I'm going to get hell from some others for saying what I said, but I honestly DO feel this way. There's enough pain in the world, and I can't fathom bringing another creature into the world if I knew beforehand that its only experience would be agony.

Answer 4

I know what you are talking about, I have seen the videos as well. Either way would break my heart. However, in a case like this - I would probably get an abortion because the baby looks like it is in SO much pain. The way the skin is just breaking apart and the eyes are blood red and look like cysts. I don't think I could put my child through such a slow and painful death. I would much rather have it over faster. Sadly.

Answer 5

I don't know what I'd do on this one. It's easy to say you'd go one way or the other, but honestly I think either decision would kill me emotionally. If I have the abortion, I'll live with "what ifs" - what if there wasn't anything wrong with the baby, what if they made a mistake with their tests, what if he lived... what ifs you see? But if I made it to term and I had to see my baby suffer like that, I think I'd follow him into death. I just don't know how I'd handle it.

You can't judge someone who has an abortion for something like this... it is a difficult and deeply personal decision to make. Thank God I've never been in this position, and I still don't know what I'd do if I ever were.

Answer 6

After watching the videos you spoke of this is what I think. Since they do so many test during pregnancies, chances are someone could know before giving birth that there child would have this. I also don't believe in abortion but I don't believe in letting someone suffer. I think abortion would be a better option than letting your child suffer. Either way it would kill me if this happened to me. I honestly didn't know such a disease existed.

Answer 7

I know that a lot of people are going to call me selfish, but if I knew before I gave birth that my child would have a horrible disorder that caused them to be horribly disfigured, or in pain, or dependent on others for care for their whole entire life, I would seriously consider abortion. It isn't about my quality of life but the quality of life for the child. What kind of life is it for a child to be in pain and not be able to do things that other kids do and live a normal life. I am very fortunate to have a healthy baby and I would never judge someone who chose to either abort or keep a baby under those circumstances.

Answer 8

i think that for my babies sake i would do the abortion there is no way i would bring a child into the world if its little life was just going to be pain i couldn't bear to watch it. I think in these kind of cases an abortion is the best for everyone....I have lost a baby last july she was stillborn at 37 weeks and 6days and im pregnant again so i know what its like to be so close to ur child and to be pregnant but i don't think i could bear to see another child die

Answer 9

I'd abort-I have friends who while their children aren't nearly as bad as that they are seriously impaired. It almost destroyed the parents, financially, emotionally and otherwise.If you had other kids you have to weigh the stress on your whole family's health. Years ago when medicine wasn't so great and people didn't monitor their pregnancies, many babies were naturally aborted by the body later in pregnancy-we simply know so early now that the decision is made by use versus our bodies. A friend of mine had two heartbeats at one of her very first ob appointments-she miscarried at 13 weeks with siamese twins.

Answer 10

There are more horrible conditions, diseases, and defects than that one though that one is bad enough. I can say that there is already too much suffering in the world and that abortion is NOT the worst thing that could happen to a pregnant Woman. I support any Woman's choice when faced with these situations.
Peace,
Jenn