Am I the only female to think that wedding ceremonies are just a waste of time/effort/money? I feel that they're completely overrated and does absolutely nothing to improve/enhance the relationship. These weddings are often extravagant and rake up enormous bills. The newly weds are already in debt before their marriage even began!
And the worst part is the family and friends. What exactly is the point of spending so much money on these people anyway? If they are truly happy for the couple, there's no need to go to such lengths to please them. They should give their blessings regardless of the situation.
Am I being too radical here?
2007-08-15 17:16:33 · 12 answers · asked by homeiyi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think your being a little too radical...... if money is the main issue..... why not have a beach party wedding or, invite everyone to what they think is your wedding shower, and have a suprise wedding !!! have a garden wedding, make them think it's a huge bar b que..........they can all bring a prepared dish !!! at our wedding, we, passed a BOOT around.... people gave money..... BEST WISHES !!!
2007-08-22 15:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee squaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wedding celebration will enhance any relationship, most of the time it is the opposite. One of my sisters was seperated before my parent's paid for her wedding, another one divorced after a $10,000 wedding. I have helped arrange weddings in back yards, at different local spots that were very nice (outdoors) and I even had a money tree which I put on the invitation. And, for incentitive, I put a $50.00 check on the top of the tree, and other friends followed prior to the ceremony. We provided the meat and drinks and everyone brought a covered dish. We had the cake made at Wal-Mart and even bought the chicken there which was less than one hundred dollars and a total of two thousand dollars was placed on the money tree. I created the invitations as my gift to the couple as well, it was done on my home computer and addressed to the families of .... We did request a RSVP to make sure we had enough chicken, we used paper plates and napkins and a great time was had by all. There were over 50 guests and it was a beautiful day and no one had to dress up. The bride and groom did but changed clothes. We had cds for music. We decorated with balloons, making a beautiful entry for the bride with a arch which we rented an airtank for $5.00. There are lots of wonderful suggestions for inexpensive decorating and of course this has the entire family and friends donating their time and you still having a beautiful inexpensive wedding, and money for a new start in your life. The Dollar Tree had table cloths, we borrowed tables and chairs from a local church. It was a smash! Everyone had a great time. There was plenty of food and the event ended up lasting six hours including clean-up. The balloon arch, since we used wire and wood to wrap around, was taken by someone for a birthday party for her child and she paid $50.00 for it which was less than the cost of the arch.
Love, happiness, communication and responsibility is the most important thing in a marriage and a relationship. Save the money and be happy!
2007-08-23 20:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Closed Acct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband & I did not want a large ceremony because I do believe that spending a lot of money on a 15 minute ceremony is a WASTE! So, we went to Vegas and got married there. Our entire ceremony cost us $500. It was a huge package deal that came with pictures and everything. It was done at a nice hotel/casino.
It caused my in-laws to absolutely hate me because they thought it was wrong that we didn't have a ridiculously large wedding like my husbands parents did. Of course, we told them that we couldn't even afford a huge wedding so we didn't want it. They still complained, but never once offered any money to help pay for this large wedding THEY wanted. I hate them. Jerks! UGHH.. sorry. I am still bitter about it. They ruined our wedding.
The small ceremony was a great thing.. it was just the in-laws (his parents) breathing down my neck and ruining the whole thing that caused it to go in a down hill spiral quick!
2007-08-16 00:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree. My fiance thinks I am not excited about getting married because I haven't been planning our wedding but I don't care about all that. I want a dress and pictures and a special ceremony for the two of us and maybe our parents. I don't see the need for anything more than that. I can't imagine having to deal with all those details. I would be a nervous wreck by the time the day actually got here that I wouldn't be able to enjoy it. I would rather spend the money on our honeymoon or just save it for a new vehicle or for our kids when we have them. I think you should do what makes you happy.
I'm thinking about getting married in Jamaica or just somewhere on a beach, just me and him.
2007-08-16 00:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are thinking interms of how much money you are going to spend & I quote on "THESE PEOPLE". Let me remind you that "these people" are your parents, his parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents & close friends. These people are the people that one day wil come over to baby sit, help out when you buy your new house, to move, come over and keep you company..etc. You are looking at this as if this GRAND expense, for THESE people aren't worth sharing one of the most important days of both your lives. What is truly sad is, that, people that think like you are the ones that usually need these people more than they will eventually need you. If you do not have the money, then I can see not going over board. A simple wedding would be just fine for THESE people, I am sure, IF these people really love eachother & are a close knit family. Maybe you have been watching too much bridezillas......Or are you one except one of THESE broke ones. Remember that These people also, buy you gifts... that add up...and will buy your kids gifts on birthdays, and will "remember" how you felt back in the day!
2007-08-23 14:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Hermosa bori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being too radical. A large family wedding is very nice if that is what the couple to be married want. However, there are so many others who choose a quiet more intimate wedding. It is entirely up to the prospective bride and groom.
2007-08-23 14:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I had a big wedding...and now I'm divorced. The wedding doesn't make the marriage, it's the upkeep of the relationship that does. So, have a big wedding, or don't...doesn't matter except to talk about later. My fiancee and I plan a JP wedding.
2007-08-22 20:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree. most people get divorced anyways so you end up paying off wedding debt and lawyers bills. i hate that so many bridezillas think the wedding is all about them and don't hesitate to throw down 10 grand on a friggin dress. a wedding is NOT about the bride it's about the union of two people. it's just as much about the groom and his willingness to give up his balls as it is about the bride casting them in gold and wearing them around her neck.
if i ever get married, which i may not since the whole idea is really unappealing to me, i'm gonna spend the money on a rad dress, tons of booze, awesome food, and reception with music played by of montreal.
2007-08-22 14:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think n feel the same way...wedding ceromonies r a total waste of time n money.....u will find very few who will wish u the best n majority of them will compare they other ceromonies to the ones they have arranged or have attended.......i think u should get married in a happy place n with just family who u r sure of wishing u well.....i think it is purely ur decision n ur take on wht u want to do with the first day of a new life.....i think itz gr8 to break away frm the norms of society n to just have a gr8 day witht he one u love so much.......ur family maybe upset with ur decision but i m sure they will thank u for it later in life....so all the best n spend the money on things that can do much better things in life.........
2007-08-23 12:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! My husband and I got married 8 years ago, we just went to the court house paid 25.00 and the lady filled out our marriage license and said " I now pronounce you man and wife" and we kissed called it good and went to Glenwood Springs Colorado for a really nice and luxurious honeymoon.
2007-08-23 10:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by robink71668 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋