He works at a store on a busy corner and this happened around 3 p.m. on a Saturday afternoon while he was working. Would you think it was some random thing or that someone who knew him had a grudge? My husband acts like he has no idea who did it and he wasn't interested in calling the police to file a report. I ended up calling the police to see if there was some gang-activity in that area, which they said there has not been.
2007-08-15 16:33:40 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The store he works at is in busy commercial area with stores around like Best Buy and a Kroger grocery store. It is a low crime area. The police came out to see the car after it was fixed but had absolutely no leads. He told them, "you'll probably never find out who did it anyways". He is usually really worried about money & the tires on the car were new b/f slashing. He acted like he didn't care about buying more tires. I confronted him about knowing who did this and he said he doesn't know so why get all upset. He has lied about things in the past but I have no reason to believe he has been cheating. Just wanted to know if my 1st reaction that he knew who did this was on target with other peoples' thinking. Thanks!!!
2007-08-15 16:46:19 · update #1
No other cars have been vandalized in the last month or in any months prior in this area per police.
2007-08-15 16:47:00 · update #2
It seems to me that reporting the vandalism would be the 1st thing to do. I might be wrong, but it sounds a little fishy to not call the police.
I wouldn't make any accusations, but I'd definitely keep my eyes open and do a little detective work. Sounds like you've already started doing that. Good job!
2007-08-15 20:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he does not want to report the vandalism to his vehicle speaks volumes.
He obviously knows more than he wants to say.
Would there be any reason that you can think of why someone would be targeting your husband or his vehicle?
If this did not happen in an area where there are many acts of vandalism, it cannot be considered random.
Your husband may be wanting to protect you from what is going on, for either good or bad reasons; but there is definitely something else going on here and you need to keep talking to your husband about this.
If your husband files a police report, it will give them a place to start if other incidences occur.
My best guess would be that someone has been thrown out of the store and/or banned from the store and they are getting payback.
I have worked in retail management and had to have some people who were caught stealing banned from the store I was managing, and left work one night to find my car antenna broken off and scratched down the side of my car.
I did file a police report, and when one of my tires were slashed a couple of weeks later and the police investigated, they ended up catching the kids who did it and it was off to jail for them. They had also attempted to break into the back entrance of the store so had a long list of charges.
I wish you the best and hope that this was a random incident for your sake.
2007-08-15 16:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing to come to mind is he might have pissed off his girlfriend. Don't get pushed out of shape now but think about it...He did not want to call the police? You did and found nothing was up...Three tires and the mirrors come on that is a lot of damage...On a busy corner in broad day light? Can you not smell female written all over this? Open your eyes and ask around...The wife is always the last to know....
2007-08-15 16:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bigeyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was fine until I got to the part about "wasn't interested in calling the police to file a report." that seems like suspicious behavior to me. most normal people would call the police immediately and file a report, both for legal and insurance purposes. avoiding it altogether? i'd sit down and have a straightforward conversation with him to be sure you understand why, or there will always be lingering doubts. life get's really REALLY long and tedious if you end up distrusting your spouse. don't let your relationship get there.
2007-08-15 16:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by The Beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vandalism itself isn't a red flag but not wanting to report it to the police is odd. I'd take a second look at this. Why didn't he want to file a police report?
Sounds like he might know who did it. But I don't know... Are there other weird things going on?
2007-08-15 16:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your hubby knows who did this to his car and he will never tell you . I know you may think he's messing around and maybe you're right because the evidence of the car shows suspecian but take it from me I've been married for over 12years and it is not worth the headache nor stress just tell your hubby if he's f**king around he better STOP or else and make good on your word what ever you choose to do but if you have a really good husband and he takes good care of the family don't lose him to some other woman o/k.
2007-08-15 16:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something is up and your husband knows something.
Otherwise you would want to report it.
And was he the only one that got vandalized?
If so, then why was he targeted?
If he didn't know who did it, I would think the first thing you would want to do is report it to the police.
Even the insurances would want a police report to be filled out, or they may not cover it.
So what is he covering up?
Doesn't look good :{
2007-08-15 16:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely that someone have a grudge with your husband. Did your husband fired someone lately or suspended someone? Because where my husband work (in a big hotel company), his boss suspended an employee and the day after his car was burned during the night. Try to talk with your husband to see if his missing something or forgetting who could be.
2007-08-15 16:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I would think two things: first I would think either he has some jealous co workers, or (worse case scenario) he is cheating, and his other woman found out about you some how. I believe this because of his lack of knowlede of who did it and not wanting to file a police report. I would investigate if I were you.
2007-08-15 16:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think much about it until you said he isn't interested in filing a report. 3 tires and busted mirrors is certainly something you call the police over. I'd say he's pissed off a woman. Sounds like he told her he wasn't leaving his wife.
2007-08-15 16:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋