What do you do when you love your husband but as a friend. And you have kids.?

Answer 1

If there's any hope, try and re-ignite the passion. Communicate, get the spark going. If not, it's better to go ur separate ways. Because w/o sex, one day, u won't have a friendship either, and it'll really affect ur kids by then. Good luck. Seek counseling if u think that would help.

Answer 2

You've got to stick this one out. Or at least until the kids are 18. Look, you might be going through a phase. I think every marriage has the same problems. You do think about what else it out there or if the magic has vanished. Think about your husband's traits that drew you to him in the 1st place. Go somewhere (just the 2 of you) and enjoy being together. Even a night away from the kids can help. Doesn't have to be a week-long escape.

Answer 3

There's a program for couples with serious problems who are distant, cold, disillusioned, bored, angry, separated and/or have experienced affairs, alcoholism, gambling, violence, etc. -- trained, volunteer couples who have "been to the brink" teach others how to heal & renew their marriages to make them stronger than ever. This successful program (85% when both partners work at it) teaches communication techniques and works on forgiveness, healing and restoration of trust beginning with a weekend away and 12 follow-up meetings over three months. These are not spiritual retreats, sensitivity groups, seminars or social gatherings - there are no mental health professionals involved and you don't have to share or say anything in front of anyone else. Couples discuss topics and practice skills in privacy. Blank-envelope-donation system.

http://www.retrouvaille.org

Answer 4

you love him isn't it then why don't you love him as your husband and not only as a friend, You have vowed to love him... why don't you do your job as a spouse to love him in return.. I think it will work if you can show him how much you love him... & be the best wife for him! and be the best mom for your children too!..

Answer 5

I was in the same boat as you and the best thing I did was to tell him the truth about it. I was to afraid of hurting his feeling that I did not even think about mine. But do you want your life to pass you by I did not I wanted to be happy. I told him what I felt and ya he was sad but he got over it and we broke up and stay friends for our daughter. And, I have never been happier. Now we both have someone else in our lives that makes us happy...

Answer 6

Remember those wedding vows... "for better or for worse" What do you think you were agreeing to? Get over yourself and your selfish needs and focus on the needs of your children.

Besides, if you have not figured it out already... this too shall pass!

Everything you think, feel or do will pass in time.

Answer 7

Gator Girl,

Try to rekindle the flame .... make some changes .....
But. in the end ... ask your self if your loved, taken care of, treated with respect .. .. .. there are alot of worse people to be living with than a good & trusted friend (with benefits).

Good Luck .

Answer 8

stay married. its pretty selfish of yourself at this point in what you want. you are a family unit now, not just a girlfriend boyfriend . there are more people at stake here than just your immediate family. in laws, grandparents babysitters, lawyers, not to mention ruining a guys life just because you feel like making out with the next guy. whatever happend to responsibility

Answer 9

Keep loving your husband and raising your children together. That is what you vowed to do.

Answer 10

You stay with him. He's your husband.