how.When someone has betrayed you , I know it is better to forgive and move on but how do you ever forget the pain that person has caused someone you love. Is it really possible to forget the grief that another has caused someone else ?
2007-08-15 14:16:53 · 4 answers · asked by gussie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me clarify that this person did not personally betray me but their actions hurt someone I care about. Their actions have had a ripple affect and at the moment I feel very bitter towards this person.
2007-08-15 15:54:29 · update #1
i must say that it may not be easy to forgive a person who betrays, however to hang on to negative feelings can impact on you to a larger scale. I know personally i find it difficult to forgive and at one point of time had the saying "I seldom forgive and i never forget". However since that time and circumstances in my own life, i found a new saying and it is one of these two things "I don't sweat the small stuff' and the other is "I can be nice or not......and you don't want me not nice"
This and any other answer people give should not supersede what you feel yourself. After all, you are the one that will have to live with whatever choice you make. Also, how will your decision affect the other people potentially involved. Hate can burn your guts up.
Don't make a hastie decision, but the wise one I know you are capable of.
Hope this helps.
2007-08-17 01:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by idesiremoonlight 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible but it takes time. At some point you'll be over what happened and then you'll be ready to forget all about it and move forward.
Every so often you might think of it - but just remind yourself that it's done. They messed up - as most people do - and you've moved past it.
2007-08-15 14:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive but NEVER forget. Because once you forget , it will happen again. If you remember you will stop it before it happens and save yourself alot of hurt.
2007-08-15 14:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Brice R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if u reallly loved dat person and he/she betrayed u, den its not possible for u 2 forget da pain.but u can forget abt da person who hurt u and didn care abt u.move on man.it wil take time but i m sure u wil b able 2 forget abt da person.
2007-08-15 14:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by wht is diz (BOYCOTT ISRAEL) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋