During a marriage, is it ok for a wife to have a male best friend (not related) who is not her husband?
how bour for men? is it ok for them to have a female best friend (not related) who is not their wife?
how bout in relationships is it ok if your boyfriend/girlfriend is best friends with a person of their opposite gender who is not related to them?
2007-08-15 12:59:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Before I was married, nearly all of my close friends were male. After marriage, those relationships tapered off for the most part.
I think it is not wise to have deep relationships with non-spouse opposite gender persons as a general rule. This is tough for me, because I still instantly connect with men when I talk with them. However, it is too easy to step over the line.
So yes, I do have good friendships with men, but I do NOT entertain them alone, or go out to lunch with them alone, or do anything with them without either my spouse, his spouse, or other people around. That is a rule.
2007-08-15 15:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a wife/husband/or someone in relation should be the best friend and have the other as their best friend. if they are not like that then, the relationship probably won't last and is not good. that person obviously is not satisfied with whom they are with. if they have a very good friend that is the opposite sex that is fine...it all has to do with their social life. but a humans partner should not be best friends with anyone but their spouse or who they are with
2007-08-15 22:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by ems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband had several female friends, often I was not part of these relationships. Some of the girls realized that this created an uncomfortable situation and befriended me. They tried to let me know they were not threats to my relationship. And I did become friends with them. I went shopping, to the movies, out for drinks with them. But it always made me wonder what was missing, what did he need from them that he couldn't get from me. I wish I could say that it was all in my head, but I did point out this was my ex-husband.
I think "When Harry Met Sally" sums it up best "men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way."
2007-08-15 20:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by wondryrgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf has a female best friend. They've known each other for years preceeding me and it wasn't a problem until I had to walk in the rain because she had his umbrella. Then it was a little chilly and I had to shiver because she had his jacket. Then I sent him flowers and she read the card before he did.
It wasn't her fault though. They had that close type of relationship and she felt comfortable and maybe a little entitled to those things. Friends of the opposite sex are okay as long as they know and respect their boundaries. He's straightened her out and I'm cool with her.
He would prefer if I didn't have any male friends though. He's made that plain.
2007-08-15 20:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's fine. marriage is about trust, a spouse should be able to trust that his/her partner can have a best friend of the opposite sex.
2007-08-15 21:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by chery_red_chick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fine as long as you truly trust your husband or boyfriend. One of my best friends is male and I would not want to lose his friendship because of jealousy.
2007-08-15 23:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by yourmtgbanker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay. In any relationship you need trust. And you need to trust your spouse/partner to be faithful to you in any situation.
So, yes, I do believe that it is perfectly fine in all situations concerning both sexes.
2007-08-15 20:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lostris 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have one best friend and he has seen thru good times and bad times and he is there for me when i need him the most and his name is JESUS CHRIST...He knew me before i knew my self and he gives me only what i can handle and he keeps me grounded. without him i would be nothing but a worldly person and i am not that no more...
2007-08-15 22:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage does not mean that you cant have bestfriends of another sex.
2007-08-15 20:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by just another kid 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i see no problem with it provided there is trust.
2007-08-15 20:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋