When my ex and I split up...he kinda took the debt w/ him. I had no credit cards in my name & still don't. He had a few in his name & we used them for different things. When we moved out of our house, he took the big items like the couches, big screen tv, computer, fridges,washer & dryer. Some things we paid cash for others we put on the credit card. Okay in my storage I don't have any of the expensive items maybe just the end tables, coffee table, our bedframe, etc. He doesn't help me w/ the kids money wise. I buy them everything, clothes, haircuts, shoes, etc. Well now he's crying that I should be helping him pay his debt off, that it's messed up that the credit cards are in his name & he's left with the debt. He wants me to give him money each month to put towards one of the cards. I started to feel bad & have been thinking about taking over one of the cards & paying it off. Should I do that even though he don't help me w/ the kids? He even says I owe him $200 because we had a
2007-08-15 12:36:54 · 6 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
shared plan except he got all crazy & drunk, took my phone and lost it. When we split up he asked if I wanted the phone back and I said NO because he's the type that would use that as leverage against me and if I made him mad one time, he would be turning off my phone, threatening to take it away. I could so see it being a big mess so I said no I don't want you to order a new one, you got drunk and lost it so now you pay the $200 disconnect fee. To this day he says I owe him that money but I don't feel I do when he lost it. What do you all think, am I being unfair??
2007-08-15 12:39:19 · update #1
No, he's completely wrong if he took these expensive items. He can sell them if he wants to. And also if he isn't helping with the kids, are you crazy, you have NOTHING to feel guilty about. If anything he owes YOU money, and legally. You could take him to court and get back child support for huge money. Sounds like you two were not married and this just goes to show how many problems come from this kind of non-committed relationship. But to answer your question...IS YOU CRAZY!!! Don't even think about taking on some of this debt.
2007-08-15 12:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being smart to end it with this self-centered idiot. Now the next thing you should do is go to court and file for child support, you don't need a lawyer to do this. While your at it you might also ask the judge that your ex get counseling for his drinking. And no, your not being unfair for not helping him with any bills, he made the chose to take all the big ticket items with him so now let him deal with the bills!!!
2007-08-15 19:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by lotus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want to remind him that he's not helping with the kids, and if you did press for child support, he'd probably be required to pay a good bit and is probably more than you'd be required to pay to him for the debt.
This is making some assumptions without knowing details like your/his income.
2007-08-15 19:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jen G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be is your ex being fair to you.
He took most of the assets and wants you to pay half. Who in their right mind would think that was fair?
He's not providing child support. Take him to court and get child support. Don't let him get away with not supporting his kids.
2007-08-15 21:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by bdancer222 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU CRAZY? He isn't supporting his kids. Why should you pay his credit cards bills! Good riddance to bad rubbish.
2007-08-15 19:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Diane S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no you do not owe him anything -- but why are you not seeking child support!!!
2007-08-15 19:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by mister ed 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋