Is love a choice, can we control our emotions and choose to love who we want? Like if someone's a jerk, falling out of love should be easy, right?
2007-08-15 12:26:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think to some degree we can, it depends more on the situation. If you were on a deserted island like (the movie the blue lagoon)... and you knew there was no one else but the person that you were with.. its possible you might fall in love with them.. all figuratively of course.
Apply that same situation to a person that has moved to a new town and they end up dating someone that would not normally date and fall in love. It probably has a lot to do with them being out of their element more so than a conscious choice.
You have some control on how you feel and who you feel it with... there are some cases where it works like that. Nothing can be scripted and placed in a little box that's why most science is ironic to me... math makes more sense.
2007-08-15 12:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Iamscaredformylife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! Life is short, who has time to deal with a jerk. Put your power back where it belongs and go for the best you can get and deserve. Yes I believe love is a choice but you have to think highly enough about yourself to honor who you are and not make foolish mistakes. It is just as easy to love a great guy as it is a jerk. The rewards are so much better.
2007-08-15 12:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by kimballama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some people can control who they fall in love with., or they have the ability to cut off their emotions quickly.
Me personally if i feel that i am being mistreated i can turn off my feelings like a light. It just depends on the person
2007-08-15 12:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be easy to not love a jerk, but if that were true I would be some where other then here typing to you right now.
2007-08-15 16:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I think we can control it...it just takes a lot of discipline and resolve. if you just keep on repeating "that guy's a jerk" to yourself everyday and list his bad qualities a lot to yourself, you'll eventually stop liking him in that romantic way. (you could still like him/her as a friend though) especially if the person's mean or rude to you, it makes it easier to stop liking them. personally, i've stopped liking many people this way
2007-08-15 12:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it. Practice meditation and Yoga.
2007-08-15 16:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋