My ex husband beats my 17 y.o. son. How can I help?

Question

My son lives with his dad and even though his father beats him he can't ask for CPS because he does not want to go to bording school or foster care. I live in a different city and can't help him. Whom do I call for help?

Answer 1

you are in a bad situation but you better take care of it or he could be beat to death
it is so easy to happen

remember m gaye came in late woke his dad and he killed him

I had 20 foster children loved every one of them

Answer 2

Call a shrink. You claim in most of your questions to be divorced with a 17 yo son but you go to school & live with your parents. Oh & you're not from this country.
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Answer 3

Just because you do not live in the same city does not negate your obligation to your son. CPS does not automatically place children in Foster Care or in Boarding Schools. I realize that people are generally not knowledgable in the area of Child welfare, but your ignorance astounds me. I am glad that you would at least have enough of a concious to post the question in here, however, your first call should be to the police or to Child welfare.

As a welfare worker I can tell you that the worker is going to do every thing in thier power to have this child placed with relatives rather that foster care as that is what is FEDERALLY required. Foster care is a last resort.

Second of all if your son is not willing to disclose this or has been lying to you (not calling him a liar by all means) his credibility will always be in question. I am not sure what you mean by beating but that makes me think there will be marks and bruises.

I guess that only leaves one question, Why do you not have custody of your son?

Answer 4

If you really care for your son , you wont care what school he goes to or any of that , if he is really getting beat then turn the bastard in and have him live with you or another family member,but dont let him continue to get beaten just cause he doesnt want to go to bording school or foster care, it will only be until he's 18 anyway, then he can get a job and make his own way , and get the hell away from his crap *** dad.

Answer 5

You should take him in. and have him live with you. Abused kids never want to leave their abusers. You as a responsible adult should do what's right and call CPS. By you knowing this and not reporting it is just as responsible by law. If they found out you knew about this and did nothing you can end up in jail along with your ex.
Your son may resent you when he's older.. for not doing anything.(even if he told you not too.). He's still a child and you are an adult. Adults are suppose to do whats right even if the child doesn't want to or like it..

Answer 6

What your son wants and what is best for him may be two different things. If his father is truly abusing him then he should not be there. What will that teach him in the long run? He is learning that its okay, and its not. There are other options to look into. Maybe he could come live with you or another family member? There is no question, you need to get someone involved who can help you, NOW!

Answer 7

You call 911 and report the assaults immediately. What if he kills him or permanently injures him? Think of the emotional scars he will have the rest of his life! And believe me, he will never trust you again if you know and don't help him. This will affect all of his future relationships. You are legally required to call the child abuse hotline but I think 911 is the best thing to do right now so someone in that city can go out and take a look at your son. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 8

...why can't you help him? It seems to me you're a more competent parent than your ex. Get a lawyer and demand custody, and if you don't want to care for your son, then ask a family member to help out. But still, just because you live in a different city doesn't mean you can't take care of your son. I don't want to sound mean, but don't you care about him enough to take him into your home? He's in a lot more pain than YOU are! >:(

Answer 9

You can too help him and you are legally (not to mention morally) obligated to. Why do you think you can't help him just because you don't live in that city? That's ridiculus. Contact the police, and CPS. Why can't your son live with you? Foster care is better than where he's at now. Do the right thing and report the abuser. Every time.

Answer 10

Your a parent. Sometimes you have to decided whats best for your son instead of listening to his opinions. Seriously, you would rather have your son in an environment where he is beaten or a disliked but safe environment. You need to call protective services and get him the help he needs if you cannot support him at this time.

Answer 11

I do not have a back ground in the legal aspect of the law.I gather your husband was more financially stable at the time of the proceedings.Therefore he won the custody battle.If you do not have a friend near by your son.Then gather enough money up to send for son to stay with a person you trust.When he turns 18y.o. .He may be of age to make his own decisions unless he must be 21yoa.