So in the beginning of our relationship he finds out that the girl he was seeing before our realtionship is pregnant...so they talk and she agrees to abort the pregnancy ....2yrs goes by and he gets pictures saying your the father i dont get....can someone make some sense out of this?? angry and kind of hurt.
2007-08-15 10:02:20 · 5 answers · asked by miss_jane_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems she changed her mind about the obortion, and you have to keep in mind, it was a relationship your boyfriend had before you came into the picture! The past can haunt many!
Now he may be angry about the out come of getting her pregnant, but it was her's and only her decision to keep the baby! And she had 100% that right! It's her child too!
Now about the part of finding out 2 years later, well it is better then not at all! at least for him! Now he should step up to the plate and be a real father! If in fact the child is his!
When a male and a female finally decide to add sex to there relationship, responsibilities come along with it, Sure it's great to think maybe a person won't have to worry about a baby coming, but that is the chance Millions of teens take everyday! and you can see the end results!
But there are also many, many women now days, that think it's OK to get pregnant to keep a boyfriend or husband! and there are also many, many women that have had children from men other then there boyfriends and husbands and make them think the child or children are there's! and some men never do find out the kids aren't really there's!
I feel a law should be put in place that all babies born be blood tested immediatly for the right father right at the hospital, before the child is released from the hospital! and shouldn't matter if the woman is married or not! have it a Law once in for all, Blood centers are maker a fortune on parenting blood tests! So it should be a Law on any baby born, so fathers don't end of raising children that are secretly not there's!
There's really not much you and your boyfriend can do now! Tell your boyfriend to demand blood tests to be done, if she keeps stating the child is actually his, Don't let him take her word for it! and then after the tests proof he is in fact the father and she demands child support! Have him get a lawyer to legally excise his parental rights and maybe even 50/50 custody of the child, so that if anything happens to the mother and she was no long able to take care of the child it would make it a lot easier for him to get full custody!
And as far as you, You will either have to except the child and keep your relationship with your boyfriend or you'll have to end the relationship with your boyfriend, the child needs a healthy and strong loving bonding with it's father, and you not excepting the child will cause many problems, not only for your boyfriend but to the child too!
2007-08-15 10:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you angry? She wasn't required to have an abortion just because she was considering it.
If the mother is now saying that he is possibly the father, he will have to have a DNA test. If he is the father, he will be required to pay child support. I hope that he will also step up to the plate and be a father to this child.
2007-08-15 10:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't get what?
She decided not to abort the pregnancy.
Her choice...
You might have done the same thing.
2007-08-15 10:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess the girl couldnt deal with the abortion n kept the child...
2007-08-15 10:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by *S!LL!3G00B3R*TTC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she either lied to him and didnt have the abortion - or he knew she didnt have the abortion but just didnt want to tell you.
2007-08-15 10:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋