My husband and I have been trying for over year and I have just been sso down. Every month around that time when my period starts I just cry and cry. I know it is not healthy for me to be so down all the time.
2007-08-15 09:07:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
They told me that they would like to check you out after a year. I tried for a year and a half, though, with my little boy, and a year even with my little girl. I think that timing is just everything. I discovered in an article (when I was trying for my little girl) that you should count the days. You figure it with the first day that you start your period is day one. Count each day and mark days 12, 14, 16, 18, and 20 on your calendar. Days 14, 16, and 18 are going to be your best bet. You try on these days. Until that time, do not have sex like every night, or every other night, as the sperm does not have time to accumulate. Do not try on the days in between our fertilization days, for this reason as well. For instance, you won't wanna try on days 11, 13, 15, 17, and 19, if you decide to use all fertilization days. I know this sounds silly, as well, but by OB/GYN told me to hold my legs in the air for like 30 sec to a minute. Crazy, I know, but I tried it, and now I have two beautiful children. Good luck, girl! I know how anxious you are! I wish you all of the best!
2007-08-15 09:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy-fied 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a couple to take 6 months to a year to conceive. If it's been over a year, go ahead and see a doctor. In addition to discovering any issues you might have, it'll help with the emotional side. It did for me, knowing that at least I was doing something proactive instead of just sitting around waiting and hoping to no avail each month.
2007-08-15 09:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you're going through this...but if it's been over a year, regardless of your age you need to see an RE (fertility specialist) or your obgyn to make sure everything is ok with you and your husband.....for people over 35 they need to after 6 months without success, but i've read that over a year everyone should check with a doc, you can an RE online for free to get some advice and at least get you going in the right direction, try www.FertilityTies.com
good luck to you!
2007-08-15 10:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by chiquita11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of birth control you were using before trying to conceive & your age. Sometimes it takes over a year after coming off of birth control for your body to get into a normal rythm. most Dr's will tell you after a year of trying you should seek out the advice of a fertility Dr. talk to your OBGYN first because ferility Dr's are expensive.
2007-08-15 09:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by ekolukeiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw im sry.but u kno what even those woman that are very healthy and their partners take some time as well.
but u said u have bn tryin for over a yr? hun go to ur doc, im not sayin theres anything wrong w.u(but in most cases)there is...go check, and ur doc will prob.prescribe sum medicine to help u conceive fast. good luck.
2007-08-15 09:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually after a year, my midwife prefers to see you after 4 months. I think it is time for both of you to see a doctor. Your husband will need to be checked out as well, 40% of the time it is the mans system that isn't working and it is much easier to check him than you. It's also much easier to fix a problem with him than you.
Good luck, I hope the problem(assuming there is one) is easy to fix.
2007-08-15 09:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a yr,you should go to the doctors.Take hubby with you because if theres a problem it might not be you.My friend husband left her after 5 yrs of marriage saying he wanted a baby and she was'nt getting pregnant,will come to find out he's going through the same thing with his new girl friend.Come to find out it's him!Something about the heads on his sperm are not formed properly or something.So you both go and be checked out at the same time and be supportive to one another.
2007-08-15 09:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 35 then you should see a dr after trying for 1 year. Make an appt with an OB/Gyn and they can do some priliminary testing. Also, if you have been charting your basal body temps take your charts with you, it is very helpful.
2007-08-15 09:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they start to suspect infertility if you've had no success after a year. I'd go in to get yourself and hubby checked, if nothing else just to get a baseline for it and to feel like you're doing something about it. And I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but it seems the harder you try the less likely it is to happen. Your body reacts to your stress and mental state - maybe just take a break from trying for a while. Hang in there. :)
2007-08-15 09:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people recomend a year. So i would think you could see the doctor now. Good Luck...I hope everything goes well!
2007-08-15 09:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋