I am leaving my job of the past 2.5 years in less then 2 weeks , I've been rather tight lipped about it, telling only my 2 closest friends here, it has slowly disseminated.
I am getting a sense that the "others" want to throw me a going away luncheon. I'm not really for this, it's not that i have any social anxiety, I've had going away luncheon's before at other companies where I welcomed the opportunity.
The fact of the matter is that I just don't like the attention where it's unwarranted. I came to this job not putting my heart into it, because i only came here to be closer to my gf at the time. I didn't put my all into my work, and i didn't really give a damn. I don't have any anomosity towards my colleagues, i'm just not that close to them and don't feel like a going away lunch would be all that... peachy?
How do i get out of this without looking like i'm say "screw you" to them? or should i just man-up and go through with it?
2007-08-15 08:25:38 · 23 answers · asked by wigberto.serpa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
man up, you should have pizza and have it sent to your work.
2007-08-16 06:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the attitude that you have, do you really think that anyone is planning something for you? Since you only have a "sense" that the "others" want to throw you a going away luncheon and not a printed invitation, you may be waisting your time. But in case your co-workers are a class act and are preparing a farewell luncheon for you, then do what people with manners do and accept; with gratitude. Didn't your mother teach you manners? People with good manners would accept the invitation and show that they are a capable adult by displaying proper behavior. I am sure that you learned as far back as kindergarten how to act. So, now that you are a grown man, you know that you treat others the way that you want to be treated. That is with respect and gratitude. Practice this and you will go far in life. Otherwise...
2007-08-15 08:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by W M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I'd man up and go through with it. These things are never really about YOU anyway. They are just an excuse for everyone to go to lunch together, which in most companies is a rare opportunity. They also generally mean a longer lunch on the company dollar or at least without costing the employee any pay, which everyone enjoys and looks foward to. Awefully selfish NOT to do it for everyone else.
If you must get out of it, you need to quit early so as not to inconvienence anyone or hurt anyone's feelings. Just say a day or 2 before your final resignation date (after lunch) that something has come up and you apologize, but it's unavoidable. You will have to leave effective today.
2007-08-15 08:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately in this situation even though you don't really care that much about the job, your co-workers may care about you. Suck it in for another hour and have lunch with them. I hated one of my last jobs so much I wanted to run out the door on my last day, but you never know who you will work with in the future or who will know someone that you know, OR who will be giving you your reference in the future. As unlikely as it may be "6 degrees of separation" is real!
In fact, suggest or hint around what you'd like to do, maybe have pizza delivered so it isn't an awkward sit-down lunch, or maybe suggest a happy hour a a bar so crowded you won't be able to be near anyone from your job. If you want to do a nice thing, bring in bagels and OJ in the AM and say you don't know if you'll have time later in the day for anything. Everyone will be happy and you can leave when you want to, plus, you'll have done the nice thing on your last day. If you let them do what they want to do it'll be more uncomfortable for you.
Sometimes co-workers do things that have nothing to do with the recipient - it is an excuse to do something fun at work and it breaks up the monotony - in my case, birthdays are VERY personal and important to me and I hate it when people I barely know get a cake (always chocolate and I hate chocolate) and make a fuss for me like they know who I am and they really don't. But it is also selfish to not appreciate the fact that someone wants to do something for you. It may not be 100% genuine, we may not want the attention, but someone does care, so why toss that completely away?
2007-08-15 08:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them in a nice manner you are leaving and that you will be tying up loose ends at the company and thank you all for being there etc...
They might not throw you a lunch unless you were the boss and were liked.
To assume a going away party is coming, isn't that rather presumptive and a tad bit arrogant?
2007-08-15 08:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they want to have a party for you let them have a party. It will be one hour out of your life. It sounds like it would mean more to them than it would to you, and the small sacrifice on your part should not cause you that much harm. Besides, you never know if you would run into any of these people again, or if any of them would ever be in a position to help you out in the future (it really IS a small world).
2007-08-15 08:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand but I think your over analyzing it - if they want to throw a lunch for you no big deal - just bs your way through the lunch - it's probably a company wide thing. But if you are totally morally against it then I'm not sure what you can do because people will probably be offended if you say you don't want one - what's the big deal anyway?
2007-08-15 08:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kimbermai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a nice way of saying thanks but no thanks for the lunch.
People have diffent reasons maybe giving you that luncheon because they want to get away for a while and just have some fun and celebrate.
I suggest you just go and remember if these people are taking the time to do this, the least you can do is attend.
good luck
2007-08-15 09:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Go away" the day before the lunch! Tell them you've been called to do some other things and ask your boss if you can leave a day or two early. I think it's very nice of them to want say goodbye and good luck to you but you're uncomfortable with it - let them know you are too shy about the attention and thank them for the thought!
2007-08-15 08:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Janet H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Allow your co-workers to throw the luncheon. You have to eat anyway, right? It may be an office tradition, no matter how long someone has worked there (or how much they warranted it). Just do it!
2007-08-15 08:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you say "others" are you referring to those people on Lost? Either way, man up and have the party at Subway. You could probably get the sub of the day or Meatball with bacon.
2007-08-15 14:33:22 · answer #11 · answered by Belko's.Apprentice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋