He is trying to make me choose between my son (16) and him of course hands down my son. Now I want him gone because how can I live with a man who wants me to choose. What to do or how do I get him to leave. He said he was leaving but never left. What to do???
2007-08-15 05:57:57 · 11 answers · asked by forrealgyrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh my girl! You are just playing games, the lot of you. Are you really trying to build a family?
Talk it over seriously without the silly gamesmanship.
How long has this "romance" been going on? It is time to square things up and then put up or shut up. The cards need to be put on the table. If you've got a full house, then good. But if he is just a joker in there trying to freeload off your hospitality and your generosity, then the game is over, and throw him and his goods into the street Change the locks on the door!
:-) Good luck.
2007-08-22 06:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet in Sichuan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Before I married my husband we had the same fight...I still to this day will pick my son over my husband...unless he's being rotten. I will back my husband when my son is out of control and pitting us against each other...(kids are pretty sneaky and do this)...but my husband knows that if he is being unreasonable than I will stand up for my son. I think your fiance needs to know that although you love him, your son has always been a constant in your life and always will be...if he can't understand that than show him the door. Most guys are that ignorant...he just needs to know that you'll back him up too.
2007-08-15 13:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by smackleberry1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-fiancee was doing this also to me and my daughter and we broke up. A man cannot make you chose between your children and him. It's not the beginning to a healthy marriage. That will cause too much tension between you and him, him and your son. Your son is a minor and needs to be with his mother. Give back the ring.
2007-08-22 09:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by yorkmaybeblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not going to tell you to leave him but I think that you should really evaluate your relationship.Why is he asking you to choose between him and your son. What type of man is he to ask you to choose anyways!!!!!! Your son is apart of you... that is like asking him to choose between you or his penis...... now which on do you think he is going to choose!!!!!LOL
Now if you don't want him in your house then make him leave. It's to much tension to allow him to stay and and make you and your sons relationship bad.
2007-08-15 13:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by aniyahsmome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who the hell does he think he is? , how dear he tell u 2 choose between your blood and his @$$?. please hurry kick his *** to the curve , tell him that you cnt be with a guy who , dnt respect or accept ur kids. then give him a time to be gone, if he dnt leave by then have a police come with both of u there and put him out peacefully. dont let any man make u choose between him and ur kids , no man is worth dat type of respect, your child comes 1st . and to be safe put a restricted warning out against him , so wen he is gone he cnt come with in a certain feet of u and ur family, because he would be locked up. good luck. God be with u.
2007-08-21 23:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by sweetbahama mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you would never choose him over your own son and that it's not going to work out between the two of you
2007-08-19 22:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he's making you choose between him and your son that he obviously doesnt love you and you cant be with someone who's going to make you choose.
2007-08-15 15:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave!Your son is way more important!Also your fiance is stupid for telling you to choose!Throw him out with the ring!Keep your son,plus their are plenty of good fish in the sea!
P.S.Isn't it kinda like the Parent Trap Sorta?
2007-08-15 13:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by [K]ina*Beatz♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him that it is over.You have to stick to your guns.If he lives with you you may need to evict him.Check the laws in your state.
2007-08-20 23:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is so childish...
you do not love your child the way you love him and you do not love him the way you love your son...
he does not deserve you
get help from his parents or yours....
good luck
2007-08-22 07:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by POPLA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋