are lesbians are more accepted in this society than the gay men is tha true?

Answer 1

Generally, I think that's true, yes. But that doesnt mean you shouldnt be gay, and it doesnt mean that you shouldnt be accepted, just because you are not accepted. you should love the person, not their gender.

(plus, in my experience, gay guys are hotter)

Answer 2

To <3: when have ever found 2 women going at each other to be attractive? In fact, there is nothing I find more repulsive. I hate when people try to convince me what I am attracted to and or like. To answer you question: I think its because women are generally more accepting toward the same sex than men. For example, even though I am not attracted to lesbians I am still accepting of them. Most women do not spend time hating on other women. I know what is attractive to the opposite sex. That is why I do not have problem with them. Men are very competitive and I think most see gay men as a threat to there ego. It's all competion and since pretty girls find them hot they go into denial and try to convince themselves gay men are discusting. Since they are not accepting on what is attractive to women they ultimately fail in attracting the women they desire. Attraction works in ways that men cannot comprehend. Most men hate gay men because they do not understand that attraction. Since they cannot comprehend they do not understand. Thus, they end up hating what they don't know.

Answer 3

Its a very odd topic. you always hear that a mans fantasy is 2 women together...but have you heard of a womans being 2 men together? I think its true that lesbians are more accepted in society than gay men. Partly due to the fact that they are women and they are supposedly "motherly" so a lesbian couple with kids is ok but a gay male couple isnt. i think in general that someone would rather see a lesbian couple holding hands walking down the street rather than a gay male couple. unfortuntately as a gay person this is something that we have to deal with until the world is totally equal..but it doesnt mean we hide..we must be ourselves and still live our lives for ourselves and our community

Answer 4

I would say to an extent, yes. I think the media has created this image of lesbians being over-sexualized femmes who, if coaxed correctly, might fulfill "every" man's desire of a threesome.

Plus, gay men are frequently seen as a threat to the less-than-enlightened of us, due to outdated and bigoted people incorrectly associating pedophilia with homosexuality...whereas lesbians will forever hold that sort of appeal to men, like "Ooo, I wonder if she'll let me watch her and her girlfriend make out!" or something equally as stupid (keep dreaming, boys).

It's funny though. If you've noticed, very butch lesbians are usually the target of derision...not so much as a threat, but almost as if there's something wrong with them ("Oh, if she hates men so much, why does she want to look and act like one?")

This was a point I brought up at my high school's first GSA meeting four years ago...and I'll be damned if almost all of the straight guys who had come to see what it was all about (it was very controversial in my town) didn't lower their heads or start staring at the ceiling. They knew they were guilty of the stereotypes.

Answer 5

I think lesbians are less accepted because I all the shows on tv have the one gay guy. Gay guys have been in the media for so long. For instance on the real world and on Big Brother they always cast gay men. How come you never see any gay women in any shows?

Answer 6

Absolutely not.

Gay men are much more accepted than lesbians. I think they're much better understood by socety in general, as well. Think about all the gay-themed TV shows out there or gay characters you've seen in movies. They're predominantly male. Gay men have been accepted in certain professions, for instance, for decades. It's perfectly acceptable to have a gay male stylist, makeup artist, interior decorator.... basically any creative profession is wide open to gay men. I know many straight women who would much rather have a gay male hairstylist than a straight female one. On the flip side, how many people feel comfortable having a lesbian contractor or plumber or driver instead of a straight male in that role?

I think lesbians are also much more segregated based on appearance. Butch lesbians are less accepted then femme lesbians. In the new culture of THE L WORD and SOUTH OF NOWHERE and (God, forbid) GIRLS GONE WILD, we've discovered that people love to look at hot, feminine looking lesbians and are generally more open and accepting of lesbians that look like your typical straight woman. But no one (except maybe real lesbians) wants to see butch, masculine looking women (on TV or in real life) with another woman.

I don't think men really feel threatened by pretty women who call themselves lesbians, but they do feel threatened by masculine women who are lesbians... I think they feel more "replaceable" if the person going after the girl looks more like a typical man does.

And if you look at the transgender community, female trans people (men who become women) are much more accepted than their male counterparts (women who become men).

Answer 7

From what I have seen and comments that I have heard people make, I believe that it is definitely more socially acceptable for a woman to be gay than a man. Not sure why. I guess it has a lot to do with the fact that we see more of it and many men have their lesbian fantasies. I dont know of any woman that openly admits they fantasize about gay men.

Answer 8

Lesbians aren't truly accepted anymore than gay men. The only difference is that gay women are thought to be just one good f*** from a guy away from going straight, so their "antics" are tolerated more.

Answer 9

I think this question depends on who you're asking, and where they come from, i.e., what kind of society.

I have tons of gay guy friends. Two of them are only out to girls and each other. Since they're out to girls, they're accepted, because the girls in my school act like "AWE! It's a gay guy!" The other gay guys are out to everyone, or practically no one. The ones who are out to everyone get made fun of more than the average straight boy, but not one would homophobically call them a f@g or anything. The ones who are hardly out there are accepted by the few they told.

The lesbians in my school however, who are fully out, get called d*kes, and lesbos, whenever people are walking behind them. A girl who was in my classes last year wore rainbow makeup all the time and was only bisexual, but one day a popular girl said to her "I like your eyeshadow" and then whispered to her friends that she's a d*ke and she hates the bisexual girl.

I'm a lesbian and only out to a number of people. The gay boys accept me, but they say they don't understand how I don't like d*ck. The straight girls accept me to an extent, but I feel like I constantly have to tell them I only love them in a nonsexual way. One straight boy that I'm friends with was still friends with me after I came out, BUT he told me that gays totally freak him out and being around me makes him feel awkward.

I've seen guys who say they're only accepting of lesbians if they can get in or watch the action, but past that, if it's just two girls they think it's sick, disgusting, vulgar, or just wrong.

Maybe you should do a real scientifically tested poll, because I think the results would be shocking to everyone to see who is more accepted.

Answer 10

I don't know if it's entirely true, but here's one viewpoint.

Straight men GENERALLY objectify women, and also deem woman-on-woman action to be "hot" to them. So I don't think it's as taboo to them.

Of course, that all stops when they find out two girls are in an emotional relationship, so I would say that except for that one instance lesbians are no more accepted than gay men. XOXO

Answer 11

Yes it is true. The majority can't handle the fact that some men are gay however, they have no qualms about lesbians.