2007-08-15 05:26:57 · 15 answers · asked by Handsome Stranger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a complete cheater, cheated in every relationship I was in. I did it for the ego more than anything else. I always ended up feeling guilty about it but I still continue to do it.
2007-08-15 05:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a couple of drunk nights with the same guy behind my husbands back.. Would I define it as an "affair"? Hardly. Cheating, yes, but affair, no. Yes, I regretted it. And, yes, at the time I enjoyed it. I say I enjoyed it, cuz I guess if the sex was bad or I wasnt having a good time, I would have told the man to stop, I would have gotten up, gotten dressed and gone home. I did none of that. But I did still regret it. It took a couple of times with him to realize it was a mistake, but I did eventually realize it was wrong and that I shouldnt be doing this. So, I avoided the bar where I met him, changed my circle of friends, and changed my social life ways. It was best to remove temptation.
Then Karma hit me, damn that thing called Karma...lol! years later, my husband goes and has an all of physical, sexual and emotional affair, for 6 months behind my back. He got so involved with her, he fell in love with her. Now, that my friend, is what I consider an affair. Here is my theory on his affair...I believe he enjoyed it with every thing he had in him. I believe the only reason he regrets it, is cuz he got caught. Cuz it is only when he got caught, that he stopped. Other wise, I bet he had no intentions of giving her up. He had his cake and was eatting it, too. So, anyway......who am I to judge, I aint exactly innocent, so I try not to judge, and just live my life.
I;m curious if you are asking this question just out of curiousity or are you considering an affair? If you are considering it, please dont do it. If you are missing something in your marriage, confront your spouse and communicate your needs to him/her, give your spouse a chance to fill your void before you give someone else a chance to fill it. Affairs are fun and exciting AT THE TIME THEY ARE HAPPENING, and whoever tells you otherwise is kidding themselves. Think about it this way, if it was a bad thing, or it wasnt fun, then they wouldnt happen, right? But the aftermath of an affair is devestating. And I fail to see where any of it is worth it. So, just think about it before dropping your drawers for someone else other than your spouse.
2007-08-15 12:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time that I have ever been with another man is when my boyfriend and I were not together. It depends on the individual. Some people cheat because they enjoy it. They like the fact of not being with just one person. Then theres other people who really do regret cheating. Sometimes things just happens, and you then you regret it when its too late!
2007-08-15 12:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nik 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I regret it.
in my first marrige I did, I wanted out of my marrige thats not an excuse, I should have just checked out of that marriege. cause its like 2 bad memories> the affair and the divorce.
I dont like to remember or who I had the affair with, I try to forget untill it comes up in my brain like right now ty. its good for me to rehash it so that it will never happen again.
I have been remarried for 17 years and have never cheated on my hubby> my best friend, who still makes me laugh, and tickles my fancy, and gives me flowers 3 times a year
valentines, our anniversary and my b-day...the girls at work are always expecting my flowers to arrive and brighten up all of our day at work. :-)
2007-08-15 12:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by camero 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair. It was awful. I felt awful after all was said and done.
I told on myself. I carried the guilt for a year but I couldn't take it anymore so I just told him. I figured I deserved whatever happened.My husband forgave me.
Cheating really hurts everyone involved.
2007-08-15 12:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were together while he was on a break for 10 months with his ex girlfriend. In that time I looked at it as a break up and he was searching for love. We fell in love and he told her about two days after us getting together as in going out. He said to her he knows what he wants and that she just can't give that to him. Which was a real relationship and a family life.
2007-08-15 13:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs are great fun until you get caught. Thrill is not worth the risk in my humble opinion.
2007-08-15 12:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten points for Chip. The only honest one amongst the entire lot. Way to go my man. Telling the truth will set you free.
2007-08-15 12:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
had one, regret it awfully. i hurt my wife badly. i risked losing everything and for what? the guilt you feel, getting stuck in a situation where you have feelings for two different women, but you are bound to hurt one. just a big no win thing.
2007-08-15 12:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by ohiojeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have never had an affair and that is bcz i think if you get caught then the consequences outweigh the pleasure
2007-08-15 12:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋