what to do?

Question

if your husband pays atention to the games like the play satation more than hisown wife

Answer 1

Join him start playing the games with him.

Answer 2

That would depend, hon, on just how much. Recent studies have shown that computers and computer games are addictive, and brain studies shown that the same beta - endorphins that are released with heroin, are as well released with computer games.... probably explains why kids like them so much.

And as an addiction,,,,, any addiction.... you need to know that these people are in a relationship, it just isn't with you, will never again be you, or any other person for very long... They are, in a sense, "taken". This applies to all addictions: Alcohol, drugs, script meds, gambling, sex, computer porn.... all the same... same dog, different collar. My friend the therapist tells me that these addictions are not curable, and are barely treatable. The thing here is, "Is it just a bit of a time filler, or is it a true addiction?" Does he come home from work, and play from the time he gets home until 2am, then crash, get up, go to work, and repeat, then spend Saturdays and Sundays doing the same thing? Or, is it just way less? If it is indeed an addiction, you may wish to reassess your commitment to this relationship.

Answer 3

I can relate to this question a little bit because, at one time, I was involved with a video game mistress while I was seeing someone seriously.

I really enjoyed the game, but honestly, the game was an escape from my life for awhile, from things I needed to do, also, many games are designed to be addictive, effecting the reward centers of the brain.

With that said, if you "nag" him about it, that may not help the situation. So, you'll need to find some other way to express to him that you want to spend more time with him. Send the message that you get lonely when he plays the game. Leave the house when he starts playing, saying you're going to go find something to do while he's playing. If you have kids, take them with you if they're old enough.

If that doesn't work, or if it's really out of hand, tell him that when he plays that game so much, it makes you feel like he doesn't notice you, or that you feel like your second to a video game. State how you feel calmly but sincerely, so he doesn't get defensive.

Attempt to work out a "deal" with him, as far as what sort of game playing behavior would make you less likely to continue to feel the way you do.

There isn't anything inherently wrong with playing video games, as it is just as relaxing as watching television, reading a book, or practicing yoga. "To each his own", but if those things begin to interfer with your marriage, then it's time to talk about them. Choose a time to bring it up when he isn't playing.

Odds are, if you've mentioned it before, he's feeling guilty on the inside, so he might let his irritation with himself for playing so much come out as irritation towards you for "hounding" him about it. Try not to take it personally, since you're likely just hearing his guilty feelings and irritation with himself.

Good luck.

Answer 4

go buy him the new Madden 2008 game and play with him. Does he enjoy clothes shopping with you? My husband did the same thing, played XBox 360 nightly after kids went to bed. We got a big screen tv and split the screen so I can watch tv while he plays. But I started playing games also last year and really like it. It's fun! Go to Target and see if there's anything that sounds fun.

Answer 5

Christ....he could be out picking up broads and drinking in a bar. Of course...you'd whine about that too I suppose. Why can't some people look at something and try to think of a positive aspect of it? Especially in light of the fact that he could be away from home and doing much worse. At least you know where he is.

Answer 6

Don't talk to him about it. It will only make him avoid you more. Instead, try making him like you more than the PS. Meet him with a smile when he comes home. Smile when he walks into the room. Give him a massage and touch him more. Give him compliments - genuine and appropriate for the moment. This may make you want to gag, but you have to be willing to meet his needs if you want him to meet your's. It works when one is willing to take a step in the positive direction.

Answer 7

Try to keep him busy take him for a walk !! Go have romantic dinner , keep him from playing video games all day long ..

Good luck girl =0)

Answer 8

talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. Honestly it could be worse at least he is home, better than the men who run around all hours of the night while their wife stays home with the kids.

Answer 9

Play games with him; find something else to occupy yourself with; talk to him; find something to do for both of you; depends on the severity of the problem.

Answer 10

Learn the games and play with him.