Miscarriage??

Question

I have a 5 year old son and decided to try again last year but had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. My friends have had babies in the mean time and i am trying. I just keep getting this bad feeling that something is going to happen again. I dont see myself ever having another baby. My friends drank in their pregnancy and didnt seem to care, just took it for granted. I did everything by the book and the worst happened. What do you think the chances are of having another miscarriage?? I just have a really bad feeling.

I have only been trying for a few weeks. Think it would be easier if i knew why i had a miscarriage. It was totally unexpected as i have a healthy son already.

Answer 1

Actually I miscarried in October of last year and went through the same thing as you. All my friends drank and even did drugs during their pregnancies. It upset me cause I did everything right but there was nothing I could do about it. I had the same questions as you had and actually went and talked to my OB/GYN. She told me that 2 % of women who have miscarriages have another one and then it goes down to 0.5 to1% for a third. That is a very small amount so there really isn't anything to worry about. I know it is impossible to relax but that is what she told me to do. I hope this answers your question and I hope it helps.

Answer 2

Miscarriages can happen for a million reasons, usually it has something to do with fetus development. A cell might not divide when or as many times as it's supposed to and the body determines the fetus isn't viable and the result is a miscarriage. This is usually just a freak thing that occassionally happens to women. The good news is that if you've had one miscarriage, the odds are that your next baby will probably be ok. If you have two micarriages in a row, you might want to ask your doctor to check it out further.

Answer 3

As above answers suggest......there is a huge number of pregnancies that ,sadly, end in miscarriage. TYhe physical and mental effect of this is huge but you CAN get over it and it really is true that having one miscarriage does NOT make you more likely to have one again!!!!

Essentially it is a lottery. A miscarriage is natures way of telling you that something wasn't quite right but it certainly does not mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner. You can read up on all this and more by all the masses of info on the web!

Good luck and go for it!!!

Answer 4

I understand how hard this can be. I myself have had 5 miscarriages and no success so far. It is depressing for sure, but do not give up. If it is meant to be you will have another child. Just relax and let things happen the way they are supposed to. Don't give up on your dream of having more kids. If it doesn't work having more biological children you could always look into adoption, which is the route that I am choosing I just got tired of the heart ache

Answer 5

You need to think positive. There are something like 8 in 10 women will have at least one miscarriage in their life. Most women do not even realize they miscarry because it happens so early they think it is just a late period. Try to stay positive and like you said don't take anything for granted. I am strong in faith so if that describes you then pray for Gods will to bless you with a healthy pregnancy and baby. Good luck!!

Answer 6

sorry you're going through this...but listen, i actually read that women who have had one miscarriage have exactly the same odds of having a second one, as a woman who never had a miscarriage before....the odds are 5 to 10% i believe, so don't get discouraged...and keep trying to stay healthy and stress free as much as you can, now if you've been trying for a while with no luck, there could be other issues that can be fixed with prescriptions and such, talk to your obgyn, or talk to an RE (fertility specialist) you can ask an RE online for free and get their advice and input. try www.FertilityTies.com
good luck!
p.s. that's where i read from the doctor about the miscarriage occurrences among women who had it before or not

Answer 7

i know i how you feel i went by the book and gave birth to a stillborn bub last year in july i was 37 weeks and 6 days but i am again pregnant 8 weeks along i am stressing like nothing else that i will go through the same thing. i guess there is no harm in trying what doesn't kill u makes u stronger if u want another child so much than keep trying. good luck

Answer 8

if u only have one m/c the chances of another 1 is slim..i know the feelin.i lost my son 3 years ago aged 6 weeks after he was born 14 weeks premature.then 10 weeks ago after ttc for 18 months i miscarried after only one day of knowin that i was pregnant..i know nothin will stop u worryin because of the m/c and i understand that completely.when u do concieve take each day at a time.my doc told me if i conciece again tall my self i made it today,and do same and enjoy the pregnany..i know when i concieve again il be the exact same as u.but at the end of the day dont hold back of havin another baby,cos if u dont try u wil never succeed..keep hope and faith with u at all times..god bless baby dust to u.x

Answer 9

I know a miscarriage is a hard thing to have to go through. But sometimes they just happen. Don't get to discouraged you can still go on to have a healthy baby, and you know it is absolutely nothing you did that caused you to miscarry.

Answer 10

Who knows ? ... You have to ease up on yourself a bit .... i have had 13 miscarriages and a still born ...

I gave up in the end and funnily enough i ended up pregnant ...

she survived and i am very grateful for her...

Try and think postive i know it is hard but you really must not give up ...

Things happen for a reason and sometimes we can never understand the reason .. life works in silly ways ...

Think happy thoughts and try not to let this rule your life

good luck xxxxxxxxx

edit .. i had so many miscarriages as i had major complications and ended up doing ivf .. i think i was quite rare in that sense .. i know girls who have had one miscarriage and managed to carry full term after