We now have been married for 6 years I have noticed also that he looks at almost every girl and plus he works with a bunch of them. I used to work at the same place he did and that's how we met. I know his work routine, etc. I have confronted him about the "wondering eyes." and he denies and denies. There's also times that he is really unhappy and uses financial woes as the reason. He's been on a diet and looks great but I have to wonder why he's doing it now. Right before we met he had been trying to lose a few lbs. (he's not heavy to begin with) but that's a time when he was trying to pursue me. Most of the time I can read him like a book but here in just the last 4-5 mo. or so plus being so overly nice and somewhat flirtatious I have begun not to trust him anymore. What are the signs of being unfaithful be? He says he's not interested in other girls and he also says that he just hasn't been think about having sex. Come on. A guy who doesn't think of sex? Opinions?
2007-08-15 04:45:19 · 14 answers · asked by Sunflower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I hate to break it to you, but six years ago, while he may have been (and may still be) devoted to you, he was looking at and thinking of other women. He's a man. He didn't go blind because he loves you. Guys WILL notice other women, no matter how in love they are. He may have just been better at hiding it back then. If your only reason for thinking that he's cheating is that he looks at other women, CALM DOWN!
2007-08-15 04:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do YOU look? have you let your self go?
Those first 6 years sounded good, were they good enough to fight for?
If you think so, why not trying dying your hair, or get a full change (hair color, cut, do), get some very flattering very flirty clothes and ask him on a date... budget will determine but even a picnic can be made into a romantic date...
The guy sounds worth fighting for. If he has something on his mind, instead of loosing your trust try winning back his interest...
Good luck to you two,
2007-08-15 05:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Karla T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should have known what kind of man he was from the start. why would you marry him in the 1st place? you knew he just wanted to use you for sex. thats the only reason he married you. did you even love him? it was wrong for you to marry a guy without even knowing the real him. but i am sorry if im being mean. now you can just leave him and kick him out of Your house. and start seeing a better man who you didn't meet at a bar. Also he would like you for you not only for sex. don't rush anything, good things in life takes time, remember that.
2016-04-01 13:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every man has a wandering eye its in there nature ;does,nt mean there going to act on it. in my opinion unless he is suddenly workin late , lying about where he is ,spending more time away from home than normal i don,t think you have anything to worry about .just a suggestion why don,t you take him away for a romantic weekend pamper him and have a good long talk about how you are as a couple amazing what a couple of days away from the same old can do...
2007-08-15 04:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say if he is cheating or thinking about cheating. If it were my husband, I would get my hair done, new style, find things that I could involve myself in that don't include him that I could tell him about, I would do things to make myself more mysterious and interesting. I would also flirt with him and make him laugh a lot. This should fix it for you. It works at my house, my husband is very hot and works at a hospital full of nurses etc. He stays interested so far in me.
2007-08-15 04:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I been married 15 years and love my wife, I look at other women all the time and my eyes get me in trouble all the time from my wife, I tell her " I'm a guy" I'm gonna look at women until the day I die, It doesnt mean I'm looking at the women like i wanna run out and get married to them,
2007-08-15 05:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by born2hunt_forced2work 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you used to work at the same place. you must know some people that still work there. ask around and see if anyone has seen him going to lunch with another woman. any strange behavior. taking breaks and dissappearing with anyone stuff like that. is he coming home from work late. pay attention to what he is wearing is he changing clothes. showering stuff like that. if he is fooling around you'll see the signs. just need to open your eyes.
2007-08-15 04:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who doesn't think about sex. Hmmmm....better chance of finding the Holy Grail I'd say.
You want an opinion? I'd keep an eye on him and keep your suspicions in the back of your mind.
Good luck.
2007-08-15 04:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not make a little bit of mystery for yourself for a while? I mean, act like you don't care. Do not pursue him, and he will come around after he notices he doesn't have your undivided attention. But don't be mean about it, just act a little "so so" toward him.
2007-08-15 04:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Snow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a man, he's gonna look. Now, if he ACTS upon his thoughts or actions, you won't know unless you follow him or have him followed. Don't accuse before you have reason. He'll turn it around and have an easier way out, IF he's looking for that now.
2007-08-15 05:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋