How important is a female orgasm? Question for the adults only please!?

Question

To add to my string of sex based questions today (sorry, but I'm in one of those moods - got a lot on my mind! - but they are serious questions), is it important for a woman to orgasm? I've had girlfriends before that would orgasm very quickly, and then there have been others that never did. Is it important that a woman has an orgasm with her partner? Men need to for obvious reasons, but women don't. If you're female and can orgasm when masturbating, would you expect your partner to take you there too? Serious answers only please. Thx

For some peoples information, this isn't a personal question about my own. I recently split up with my GF who loves having an orgam with me. Before that, my ex claimed she never had one before. I'm just trying to understand what makes women tick, and to be honest, the response tells me that its half and half

WOW, I'm stunned that a question like this has stimulated so many responses. Mention the "O" word and people go nuts!!! It obviously IS very important and has a significant affect on our world today! Thx for ur responses

Answer 1

Well, it really depends on the woman. A lot of women find that the intimacy of sex itself (i.e., the closeness, the emotional connections, etc.) is more important than an orgasm, while other women are focused more on "finishing".

Myself, I find that I am quite content without orgasming most times I have sex (since the act itself is more than enough to please me!), but occassionally the "animal" in me comes out and I need to finish or I'll be as edgy as a man who hasn't finished! However, when I do feel that way, I am sure to let my partner know that I'm needing the "full deal", and I am more than willing to finish after he does (if need be) through oral stimulation, a vibrator, etc.

Hopefully this helps a bit....

Answer 2

I think it is extremely important for a woman to orgasm. Some medical books state that a woman's orgasm can help in achieving pregnancy. So, if that is true, then I would say that it is important to the people trying to conceive.

Personally for myself, I feel frustrated if I don't have one during sexual intercourse. I don't think women are much different from men in that area. Traditionally, in the past, it was a belief that women didn't need to have an orgasm to be satisfied. Those times have changed. Of course, everyone is different.

To answer the question about would I expect my partner to take me there when having sex, well, I would only expect the same that I give him. I would hope that he would want me to have an orgasm too just as I would want him to reach sexual satisfaction. If not, then I don't even want to be with him.

Answer 3

The only reason a man 'has to orgasm' is if they and their partner are planning a family other than that its really just a pleasure thing so if the man is getting pleasure why cant the women? Everyone has different preferences anyway! Some people just enjoy the thrill of sex without an orgasm others see having an orgasm as an important part of intercourse! Its probably just best to ask your partner if it is important to them and you never know they might just ask what they can do for you haha!

orgasm : the climax of sexual excitement, consisting of intense muscle tightening around the genital area experienced as a pleasurable wave of tingling sensations through parts of the body

Answer 4

Your previous girl friends must have been faking orgasms. Many women fake orgasm. No woman gets an orgasm quickly without proper preperation. Some women don't know what an orgasm is for one thing. Inexperinced females don't even know what a female orgasm is. Men can give inexperienced woman a "nice" feeling and then there is a REAL orgasm. Once a woman has had an orgasm she wants that feeling again. It sounds like you don't know how to help a woman have an orgasm to me.
Now let's think about this if you can have an orgasm with your hand why do you need to have intercourse. Why would it be any more obvious that a man needs an orgasm than a woman needs one? If a woman isn't going to have an orgasm why does she need a man for sex?
I think, you have only had sex with inexperinced females---perhaps just girls, because woman have figured out what they want and need orgasms and they have no need for sexually useless men like you.

Answer 5

If it was not important for a woman to orgasm , well think about that , it might have some thing to do with the fact that all women are hoping that this time this plonker might give her multiple orgasms which is easy to do if you spend more time on pleasing her so make it last an hour instead of 5 Min's and she just might want it again later. If there was no sugar in sweets people would stop eating sweets.

Answer 6

Well, physically a woman doesn't have to reach a climax in the same way that a man does ie. it makes no difference to making babies. But it is the height of sexual excitement, so most women want to orgasm at least once during sex.

However, the female orgasm is much more complex than the man's. Some women can climax just through penetration, others need penetration and clitoral stimulation and some just the stimulation alone. We are complex creatures us ladies, every woman is different and there are some who can't orgasm at all or who find it very difficult to orgasm.

Having said all of that, my husband understand what works for me and I usually have at least one orgasm during sex, sometimes more. That's because he wants me to enjoy it as much as he does and works towards me coming. I would think any serious sexual relationship would be the same ie. you want it to be a shared experience in which you both get as much pleasure as possible.

Answer 7

Okay, so why is it that men "need" to orgasm and woman don't? I can see that a man would need to orgasm if he is trying to get the woman pregnant... but why does he "need" to orgasm and she doesn't, otherwise.
To answer you question, it is important that the female be pleasured too. We like to orgasm just as much as men, if not more so b/c it usually doesn't happen every time a female has sex.
Thankfully my husband takes the time to make sure I get pleasured too. I think that is why I still enjoy having sex with him so much, b/c he understand it isn't all about him, it is about the both of us!

Answer 8

I'm a little . . . disturbed by your question. If men need to for obvious reasons, that means that you are either talking about blue balls (which don't always happen) or procreation. I'm assuming that you don't believe that sex is purely for procreation, so I'm not sure why you think it is obvious that a guy must have an orgasm.

So, assuming you are talking about sex as pleasure, I see things a little . . . . differently. No orgasm is ever necessary for sex to be pleasurable. In fact, if less attention was paid to having an orgasm, there wouldn't be so much pressure hen it comes to sex. Some women are so disturbed by not being able to achieve an orgasm that they think there is something wrong with them, and that worsens the problem.

Sex is about enjoying each other. That doesn't include or exclude an orgasm for either partner. As far as I'm concerned, an orgasm is merely an added bonus to getting to be with the man I love.

But . . . . orgasms for men and women should be held on equal ground. If they aren't, many men will see no need to treat their partner equally in bed. That leads to selfish sex, and that's a quick way to end up single. A selfish partner is no fun in bed.

I expect that my man will do everything in his power to make sure I'm pleasured in every way as I do the same for him. I will not kick him to the curb if he doesn't meet this expectation; however, I expect him to want to work on it with me. (What a lovely relationship problem to have: the chance to improve one's sex life!)

But sex should be about equal pleasure for all involved.

EDIT: Emperor . . . . I'm not into romance. I know a lot of women who like the experience itself. :)

Answer 9

Being a virgin, I don't really know if I qualify to comment. Don't worry, I'm 21, not a kid. lol

So far, I've had to rely on my girlfriend to give me orgasms, cos I won't have sex with a man until I marry one, and for some reason they lose interest before it gets that far. It seems that they only want one thing, and it's the only thing I won't give them (yet).

When my girlfriend's not around (she often goes on holiday with her husband), I get very ummm... needy, because I believe that masturbation is dirty and unnatural. I find other ways of getting myself off, and it's quite easy for me, because I seem to have a very sensitive cl****is (blanked in case of children), and I'm easily stimulated by simply sitting on my friend's motorbike with the engine running.

So basically the female orgasm is rapidly becoming the most important thing in my life and it's getting like an addiction.

Krysti's not due back for another month or so, so let's just say that right now I'm almost going mad with the wait for some real action.

Answer 10

Orgasm isn't a need, it's a desire. People don't die if they don't orgasm.

For many, an ultimate goal of sex or masturbation is the climax, however a lot of people can also just enjoy the experience even if they don't "O" every time. It depends on the person...some think there's something wrong if they (or if their partner) doesn't climax every time, and others just go with the flow. ☺

As long as everyone involved is having fun, who cares?