What is marriage to you?

Question

I think marriage is the highest of relationships. Its has more commitment then a bf/gf relationship and its the final.
Im very hurt to find out that my bf thinks marriage is nothing more then a piece of paper. This makes me feel like he never wants to get married, as he doesnt care about it.

But, what do you think of marriage, what does it mean to you?

Answer 1

I think marriage is the commitment between two people, stating that they want to make a life together until "death do us part". You choose this person to grow with, experience life with and be loyal and faithful to. You find something or many things in them that help you decide that they are the one that you believe you can make a lasting commitment to and it is real for you and for them, and you know they have the same respect for you. Unfortunately...sometimes it takes a mistake on our part to learn what marriage really means to us. I have been married and divorced once. I thought I knew what it meant but I was still a little naive and immature about some things going into it, I suppose (obviously) and so was he.

A marriage proposal is about the highest compliment someone can give you...they are saying to you that they choose you over anyone else and they want to share their life, their forever...with YOU. This says a lot coming from the right person. So many people go into marriage without putting much thought into it. They do it for all the wrong reasons sometimes...like because all their friends are doing it, or because they are bored (it's just the next step), or because they're insecure with the relationship and they think marriage will "cure" this feeling (it doesn't, it would probably get worse). Anyway...marriage is precious. It can be as special as we want it to be...it's what we make of it. Lots of people make it a huge MESS. Even in divorce, you can choose not to make it an ugly mess.

I know more now of what marriage means to me and what it takes to make it last and what can destroy it. We learn things the hard way sometimes...but sometimes that's the BEST way to learn it. We have to go through the wrong relationships to learn what will work for us and how we can be to help it work for someone else we choose to be with.

Marriage is a commitment to be with someone but sometimes things change and things happen that alter the outcome of what we first intended. I think with the combination of the right two personalities and that includes ones with integrity, honesty, good communication skills or at least a willingness to try to communicate...even if you're not the greatest at it, and a genuine respect and affection for the other person, dedication and a positive attitude that doesn't lack hope. All of these qualities and many more...too much to go into here, are the basics of what can make a marriage work forever. I like to think I have come to this stage in my life that I have what it takes to make it work and last with my special someone. Oh...I'm still learning about things and what it takes to compromise and work things out. I certainly haven't perfected anything, but I've come a long way and so has he. Yeah...I think WE have a really good chance at making our relationship last forever. I'm looking forward to it !

Answer 2

Marriage to me is just sham to ensure that when people have children that there are property and monetary obligations to make sure that if one partner changes their mind, the children are protected.

I personally think that in todays world the "ideals" of marriage are devalued and compromised and it really doesn't mean anything much at all any longer.

I would say that it is not worth it unless the couple has children. I think marriage is a bit ridiculous and personally I could not imagine going into it

Answer 3

Marriage is a binding contract between a man and a woman that says ,In exchange for some sex and a little house work ,when she cheats on him and gets kicked out she still gets 1/2 or more of his money and maybe even his house.

Such lovely parting gifts ,don't you think?

Answer 4

I agree with you. It is the highest form of commitment and not to be taken lightly. I take it very seriously. It means I will not leave, cheat or mistreat him in any way for the rest of our lives.

I would take what your boyfriend says very seriously. If someone doesn't respect what marriage is, why would you want to marry him? If it's just a piece of paper to him but he gives in and marries you I would say he is highly likely to divorce you when he gets bored or whatever. Find someone who want to make a lifetime commitment to you, someone who values you enough to say even during the hardtimes we will stick together and work this out

Answer 5

Marriage is the ultimate partnership. It is more than friendship. I believe it is a union blessed by God that is supposed to be a blessing to both of the people involved. The two are meant to walk through life together, through the good and bad. Taking care of each other. Think of the traditional marriage vows. When I said them, I meant every word.

Answer 6

An extra income, an extra hand around the house and a tax break. If he leaves you for some tramp who is not even old enough to drink you get 1/2 of the assets.

I used to think like you. Now im cynical.

Answer 7

to me the ceremony is a piece of paper. before there was even such a thing as what we think of now, marriage was when a man and woman came together in agreement to be husband and wife. at that point they were married in God's eyes, no rings, no piece of paper, but spiritually. i still believe the spirit is what counts. i take it serious. i believe it is the greatest blessing two people can have here on the earth. i believe men and women are incomplete without one another. The curve was taken from Adam and Woman was formed. she is part of him, and he is incomplete without her. yes, i believe marriage is sacred and important.

Answer 8

i agree with you that marriage is the ultimate sign that someone is willing to commit their entire self to you. however, some people feel that they do not need a piece of paper to declare to the world how they feel about you.

Answer 9

It means I have a little piece of mind. We would be just as happy without being married, but if something happens to one of you, the legalities are horrific.

Answer 10

Marrige is a covered dish u can't b sure unless u uncover it. Anyhow this is not mere a piece of paper but it is a verdict of becoming one for eternity, one for pleasures, one for sorrows, one for love , one for hatered, one for gains, one for losses.
Bfore marrige u say "i" & after marrige u say "WE". SO this is all about marrrige, becoming One from Two.
Like two bodies but one soul.
If your bf ignores all this then it is better for u to ignore him regarding your future.
I wish u best of luck when u uncover your marrige dish.