2007-08-15 04:01:54 · 15 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Thankfully now I feel safe. I recently ended an 18 year marriage (1 year ago) with a mind playing emotional abuser. It's still hard for me to feel good about myself and I rarely venture out to make friends. But it's getting easier as time goes by.
2007-08-15 16:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. One of the worst things I am facing is not being "allowed" to sleep. My roommate falls asleep in front of the TV starting at around 8 PM - yesterday I caught him snoozing twice in the afternoon as well. Then he gets up at between 6 AM and 7 AM and opens the patio door wide so the barking dog next door and the train wake me up, after that he goes into the office, which shares a wall with my bedroom, slams the door everytime he goes in and out, opens that window wide and makes as much noise as he can.
Because of the location of my room I am kept awake most nights until 3 AM with the drunks yelling and screaming and fighting on the street, so I generally get between 3 and 4 hours of sleep a night.
THIS is abuse. There is also constant mocking me for my disabilities. I have a frozen, painful shoulder so there is constant "why dont you drive for a change?" as I am now forced to have him drive me everywhere. And comments like "I should try harder" or I am a quitter.
Constant belittlement of me and my kids. He has never had kids but he knows everything there is to know about raising them. Telling me if I dont like the mess he makes I can clean it up, telling me to get out. Constantly "accidentally" bumping into me - he elbow chopped me in the shoulder which is how it became frozen. It was injured in my accident, but that was the final straw for it I guess.
The GOOD NEWS is I have found a place to rent that I can afford !!! I am moving either next weekend or the end of the month and my roommate is going back to China to work over there.
2007-08-15 07:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My world is safe if I stay in it. To close for comfort are to large cities with horrible crime rates two or more shootings every single day. Its a war zone. We never locked up anything in the country when we were young but they donow. As safe as I am I would never leave my doors or windows unlocked, I have special security so the windows can be partially open. It helps to have a little watch dog. I do. I have always had a gun.
2007-08-15 05:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is now, I was sexually assaulted in the foyer of my apt building. The local police weren't terribly helpful, dufuses actually, but the Criminal Investigative Bureau was as was the Crown Attorney. He was prosecuted , did time and is probably just finishing his probationary period as we speak.
I keep my doors locked and bolted. My windows are locked and when I go out I make sure I have some kind of device where I can signal if I'm being threatened or am scared.
If you are experiencing abuse of any kind, GET OUT . Go to a woman's shelter, charge the person who is abusing you and make sure the charges stick. Be a positive role model for your children and grandchildren on what to do when you are being abused so the cycle won't be repeated.
2007-08-15 05:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully, my personal world is safe & filled with lots of love. There was a time, however, when I was a mere little toddler, & my personal world wasn't safe nor non abusive.Those days are far behind me, but the emotional scars will always be there. I have learned not to dwell on the past. To do so, would not allow me to enjoy the present. :)
2007-08-15 04:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Mine is safe. Last time I had to deal with abuse I was still living at home with my parents. Dad was an alcoholic, and I was the oldest of four. I've been safe for about 40 years now.
2007-08-15 06:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My personal life is very safe but 2 years ago I had to walk away from a domestic violence situation with the clothes on my back. It was the first and last time for this to happen. I will never look back, I think we all deserve to feel safe in our homes.
2007-08-15 06:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I take it upon myself to make sure that if any abusing is going on around me, it is me doing the abusing! Since I have a relatively gentle nature, I act as a protector to those who I feel are in danger. But personally, I really enjoy lighting into those who are just plain old mean! Isn't it funny how fast a bully folds when you call him on his actions...all the stammering, the "ers," "ums," and then excuses for what he/she has done...they always have a great set of rationalizations for everything they do...and it is equally funny how, in their minds, it is always the other's fault..."they needed it," "they asked for it," "they made me do it," and the final piece, "the devil made me do it." While this may wash in some Chrisitian circles, it doesn't get far in mine.
2007-08-15 05:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Fairly safe
2007-08-15 12:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very safe. Sleep with the doors unlocked and half the time I forget to bring the car keys in. Thank god for small towns!
2007-08-15 07:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by ndnquah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋