been with my bf for 2 yrs and we'd love to get a flat, get married and have kids at some point. we can't afford to do anything right now but we know we want to spend the rest of our lifes together and we can't wait to start. only thing is we're both still in our teens and i want people to take us seriously and not think of us as kids rushing into things. any advice?
2007-08-15 03:44:20 · 11 answers · asked by SpongeMate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it depends what age you guys are. If you are 17 - 19, then it's not so bad to begin planning. However, if you guys are 14 or so, then you may want to give it time before you start doing some serious planning (since a lot can change in the teen years)....
However, that being said, there is nothing wrong with dreaming together, and talking about the things you would like to do when you both are on your own. And if people are not taking you seriously right now, then you don't need to include them in your dreams until you are both on the brink of fulfilling them....
Good luck :)
2007-08-15 03:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing i say is going to change your mind about getting married at a young age, so let me tell you what happen to me. I was sixteen, and i had been with my b/f for 2 1/2 years. We also wanted to get married and have kids. So we did, we got married as soon as we turned 18. We moved into a small apartment. Because we didn't have the money to go to college, we were stuck with dead end jobs. We had know money, for food, gas, or anything. It became so stressful, we would start fighting, and my husband started going out, and not coming home. Today we are divorced,because he started hitting me. If i new then what i know know i would of waited. If i would of waited i would of found out, that i was marring a abusive person. Not saying this would happen to you. My point is wait, because you still have alot of growing up to do, and you can do that growing with him.
2007-08-15 10:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by melissa g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez...another one who thinks it's NOT a bad idea for people under 22 to get married. Seriously, if you're still a teenager, you're still a kid. You are in no way prepared for married life. You have no money, no jobs, no careers, no eduation, etc. And when the two of you get some independence, aka move out of mommy and daddy's home, you'll see the world in a whole different light.
Yes, you ARE rushing into things, no matter how much you want to think you two are mature enough to handle it.
2007-08-15 10:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to wait, especailly since u are still in your teens. Just wait till u get to be 21 and see if the feelings are still there, dont rush into it and there will always be a flat and living room for you and your bf. cause u might be in love now but nothing is forever when u are a teen.
2007-08-15 11:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teens: like how old? 16? if you're 18-19 go ahead. if you're 16 wait two more years because it DOES change you.
if you are in a sexual relationship with him right now, be very careful. i have heard these sorts of things SO MANY TIMES, from so many people, only to have them brake up later - almost always from those who start having sex. you need to work hard to build a relationship of trust.
like there is a woman at church who was ENGAGED, and then all of a sudden he broke it off and married another girl.
what i'm saying is work hard to build a solid relationship, and do this BEFORE you get married, move out etc. and if you are young, i advise you to wait two years. who knows, maybe he isn't the one, even though you no doubt have given him your heart. good luck
2007-08-15 10:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky_3150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful to have dreams and goals. Just remember to keep yourself grounded and remember what is more important here and what order to do things so you will have a lasting relationship. Statitics for a sucessful marriage the younger you are are not good. Pretty bleak.
In the meantime dream together, plan things out so when that day finally comes you will be prepared.
2007-08-15 10:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you ARE kids who ARE rushing into things. If you want to be taken seriously, get your education before you talk about getting married.
2007-08-15 10:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 me and my bf have dated 7 years.
My family still does not take me serious. and thinks we are rushing into things.
Take your time.
when you are both ready you will know.
Not anyone else.
Take your time........its worth it.
We are not married, we dont need to be married to know we love each other.
But eventually yes we want to get married. When we can afford it
and have kids when we can afford it.
Baby steps. Work your way there.
Also, enjoy your relationship before rushing to have kids.
2007-08-15 11:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you really can do is to stay together. the majority of teen relationship do not last, even though they all want to stay together and get married one day. the best way to show them all is to just stay together.
2007-08-15 11:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great just take your time i have seen it be ok and you can do it fi you really don't change but alot of people change after high school
2007-08-19 00:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋