hi.. i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me with my friend and i saw my ex kissing some girl...im not going to lie, even though i moved on, it did bother me a bit...after he hooked up with her he was by the bar by himself so i went up to him and said hi and we started talking...after that i saw some guy who i knew and we started talking (thats all, i didnt hook up with him or anything)...i saw my ex staring at us that he even came up to me while i was talking to the other guy...after that i walked out with my friend and that guy and his friend and i kno my ex saw it bc he tried getting my attention..then he calls me and leaves a message on my voicemail saying "i want you" but ur with another guy".. i get a call from him the next day apologizing to me if he said anything bad the night before cause he was drunk. then he asked me how i been? and what ive been up to? i mean seriously what does he want from me??
2007-08-15 03:11:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
By coincidence this situation does happen, and it has happened to many americans before. Whoever this happens to, the seight of the ex boyfriend or girlfriend can't let the single individual down or upset.
Although you moved on, you somehow will get past breaking up with your boyfriend. Now I don't why you and your boyfriend broke up, but maybe he wants to speak to you about something. He might feel like his is in an uncomfortable situation, and he want to smooth things out. When he called you and left you a message, he may have done that, because he wanted to show you that he wanted toy work out a better future with you. There are couples, that brake up and are separated for a while. Next after a certain amount of time, they start talking together again and work things out.
I hope this helps.
2007-08-15 03:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word...sex. But, more than that, he felt some of the old feelings coming back. He had second thoughts. It may have been a little jealousy that brought it on. This is common. If he claims that it was the booze, just let it lay.
"But...what if it wasn't the booze?" you ask. "What if he really has feelings for me?"
Good question. If that is the case....he needs to be upfront about them. If he called you and said," Baby, when I saw you with that other guy, I realized how much you mean to me. Please, can we try again?"....well, if he says something like that, you might consider taking him back.
But really,....he wanted sex and hadn't really thought about what might happen the next day. He saw you with another guy, and couldn't stand the thought of that dude getting into your pants while he was going home alone. He called the next morning to salvage his pride. And don't buy into this "I don't remember" line. He remembers everything, word for word.
2007-08-15 10:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was drunk- he thought he would use the fact that you knew each other to try and get a booty call in. Men will always want to beat out another guy in that situation. It is more about the booty and pride then it is about you as a person. I would not read too much more into it than that. If you are hoping for more- at least you know he is still a little interested.
2007-08-15 10:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by scott m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk. Meet somewhere where both of you can talk, without interference from other friends, and find out where you want this relationship to go. There seems to be a lot of unanswered questions, and by talking about it, both of you will feel better. Oh, don't get together in a bar. Find somewhere else to talk.
2007-08-15 10:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know Im not a guy but, you totally have NOT moved on. If you had, you wouldn't care what he wants from you. You would ignore his drunken phone call and have never questioned a bunch of strangers on his intentions.
2007-08-15 10:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by memememe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you posted this before. The need to prove to him that you have moved on, means that you have NOT moved on.
2007-08-15 11:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word-
Control.
2007-08-15 17:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by grambleboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just want friendship. Drunk people say stupid thing.
2007-08-15 10:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Patito 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
**** him, it's the ole "sour grapes" syndrome.
2007-08-15 11:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by steak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋