..they became paraplegic. Would you go through with the marriage or back out of it?
2007-08-15 03:04:07 · 17 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
who said it was an accident?
2007-08-15 03:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I would still stick with that person. Think about you were thinking about marrying that person till death do you part for sickness and in health. That is what is important if you love the person you would always be there. Also marriage is not suppose to be an easy thing either you are there for each other because you love one another.
2007-08-15 10:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would totally stay. If I was getting married, that means I am in love with the person and they were my life. That means I was ready to take the vows of better or worse and in sickness and health. If you run, then you didn't really love the person to begin with. However if you leave now you may be doing that person a favor..they will need a person around who really loves them no matter what.
2007-08-15 10:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through with it, absolutely. I didn't marry my husband because I liked the way he walked, I married him because I love HIM.
*****Brian K - As much as I'm sure you love telling us all what we do and don't know, I'm afraid that I'll have to burst your bubble by letting you know that I helped care for my grandmother for a year when she was dying, too, so I know what it's like to care for a very ill and dependant person, and I saw it as an act of love for a woman who had been so loving all her life. I had to move out of my bedroom so she could live there, and I considered her worth any sacrifice I've made, so please don't think your family has the monopoly on caring for dying grandmothers.
My husband has type one diabetes, and has had it since he was five. I did a ton of research while we were dating, and I'm very aware of all the things that could go wrong with diabetes, and I've known from the get-go that there's a good chance he will need a lot of care from me when we're older. I don't see myself as a martyr for marrying a man with health problems, I see myself as someone who knows what true love is. I feel sorry for you that you apparently have never known what that's like.
2007-08-15 10:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at all the martyrs answering this question.....
FIRST off, you haven't said "I do" till sickness or in health yet, so that card can't be played.
SECOND off, all the martyrs who are talking about how it'd be cruel not to or how you should keep your honor......have not been in this situation.
Let me be straight up with you. I have not been in this situation and cannot pretend to have all the answers on what I would do and how I would do it. I think most of the answers I've read on here are very naive. I saw my mother and my grandfather care for my bedridden grandmother for 2 years and saw what a toll that takes. Folks, until you've BEEN in this situation you just cannot comment.
Honestly? I would at least have to step back and reevaluate the situation and take time and talk about it and see. Caring for someone in this way from the beginning changes everything. Maybe we couldn't go through with it. It's naive for people to say they'd go through with it regardless.....and if put in that situation, when most came down to it, I think they'd find some "other" reason why the relationship "isn't going to work out". People really are that shallow. I think I'd at least approach it honestly and say that this really causes new issues.
2007-08-15 10:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
i would stay engaged and do what i could to help them out and see if our love could continue to grow. you are in love with the person ,not the shell the body supports. if it becomes to much to give up other things in your life for the long time care that they will need ,then it should be something that the two of you talk about.
2007-08-15 10:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through with it. How cruel not to. The person is still the same...how about those part of the vows that say through sickness and health. Or are you one of those people that runs when things are not picture perfect.
2007-08-15 10:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely go through with the marriage. He would still be the man that I love...
Think of it in a different context. If he was your husband, would you leave him if he had the accident?
2007-08-15 10:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by nichole2583 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess this will be a real test of true love now won't it? I can't help but notice Christopher Reeves wife kept her convistions in order and because of that if there is a heaven I'm sure they're happily there with one another.
2007-08-15 10:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go thru with the marriage if he was willing to marry me. I promised when i got the ring to love him thru sickness and to health and so i would do it no matter what... I loved him then when he was whole and i love him now as he is whole in my eyes and gods eyes...
2007-08-15 11:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go through with the marriage.Love doesn't turn off like a faucet, it goes on through thick and thin, for better or for worse.
2007-08-15 10:31:43 · answer #11 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋