Do you believe in Divorce???

Question

Do you think if less people "believed" in divorce as even being an option, more marriages would last??

Why do people just "run for the hills" after a couple little stupid fights???

Answer 1

well, i suppose in certain situations YES... like cheating...

but for stupid little arguements and general disagreements no.

marriage is hard work, it's a second job....

the first few years of marriage are VERY hard. it takes some adjusting, especially if you get married early on in the relationship.

yes, i believe if people "stuck with it" more marriages would last...mine has lasted so far, almost 5 years.. and those first few years were really tough!

good luck and best wishes!

Answer 2

It's not a matter of "believe in". Divorce exists, it's real, we know it occurs all the time, many of us have been through them...there's nothing not to believe in.

However, I think what you are really asking is do we agree with divorce or think that it should be an option?

Would you want to be stuck in a marriage that wasn't working? You or your partner (or both) had grown and changed in ways so that you were no longer a good match...would you want to have to spend the rest of your life with that person anyway, simply because you'd chosen to marry them at a time when you were a good match?

There's nothing wrong with divorce...there's no reason for people to feel they must be with someone from the day they say "I do" until one of them leaves this earth...while that is a nice idea if they continue to be a good match for one another, the fact is that often what starts out as a good match, isn't after a few years.

I do agree that some people throw in the towel often for the most minor thing...but more often than not what they realize is 1) getting married wasn't a good idea to begin with and they made a poor decision or 2) they are no longer a good match due to one or both changing and it's time to move on separately.

Humans aren't monogamous by nature, but we've learned to be...that doesn't mean we should feel pressured to pick one partner and stay with them forever. If not for the knowledge that divorce was an option, there'd be even more couples choosing to just live together and not get married because they'd not want to be trapped in a situation which could change down the road.

Answer 3

I do not believe in divorce unless there is physical abuse or infidelity involved.

I do believe that more marriages would last of less people believed in divorce.

And as far as I can tell people run for the hill because they believe that they settled and that there is someone out there that will satify their every want and need (which is impossible) and they believe that they will be able to find a relationship with out compromise (again impossible) and sometimes they just didn't think the commitment part through and really should have known the person they married a little better before they said I do...

Answer 4

I personally do NOT believe in Divorce. I feel that once you're in IT, you should try to stick it out. If you took the time to learn and know the person and they're likes and dislikes, their moods...good and bad, their past relationships reasons for being together with that person and the reason(s) that they're not together, then you'll know what not to do, what to do, when to do things and so on. Now if the person is willing to tell what they didn't like about an ex and why they're not together, then the next person that is getting with them should take that to heart and raelly cares about that person and wants to have a long lasting realtionship/marriage with that person, then they should work TOGETHER towards making it work, not individually and selfishly ONLY towards their wants and desires. That way the subject of divorce should not come up, and if it does, ALL of the Good Times and Memories SHOULD BE MORE and Out-weigh The Bad Times and the two should get past them. I say this because if you took the time to marry a person, then IF a divorce DOES happen, the two of them WILL NEVER GET PAST IT. No matter who they get with afterwards. The LOVE, if there ever was any, Will Always Be There. Believe That!

Answer 5

I think it's more than "running for the hills" in most domestic situations?

Both sides of a couple can attempt to 'work things out' any number of times? But eventually...they reach a point where existing as roommates is a lousy alternative to having an HONEST AND LOVING MARRIAGE to each other.

Belief in divorce really isn't the issue. It's maintaining one's sanity! If a divorce from a partner or spouse will result in a little personal happiness....even after counseling has been tried and failed....then it's better to be honest.

A marriage is supposed to be a mutually agreeable arrangement that produces some forms of joy. It's NOT supposed to be an indefinite prison sentence for life!

Answer 6

It's silly and naive to adamantly believe in maintaining marriage no matter what, as in even in the face of significant physical/emotional abuse or infidelity. People can get to know one another over the course of several decades and still end up getting divorced. Most divorces are not actually linked to "rushed" marriages, but due to the fact that people tend to change, along with financial and situational variables. It's not like 50% of marriages come from quicky Vegas style weddings. However, I do believe that people often rush to divorce as an easy out without making enough of an effort to work on the marriage; people these days often don't ever view marriage as an intended permanent relationship, which is sad.

Answer 7

I believe that we live in a world where we feel like we can constantly "upgrade" and that things hold less value (we dispose of just about anything easily). Unfortunately I think because divorce is such a common thing nowadays that people feel like there is always that option when they get into a relationship. I do not believe in divorce except for the few cases where it is an abusive relationship, someone has incurable addictions, or that there is infidelity. I think that parents should be instilling great values and morals in their children today so that when they grow up, they appreciate people and relationships. My parents are divorced, but they tried for over 4 years to heal their relationship and it didn't work out. Sometimes it happens, but it most definitely was not their first choice.

I blame the media for glorifying and announcing break-ups of celebrities all the time. It breaks my heart and is not amusing to me whatsoever when it happens.

Answer 8

This is a tricky question and I am sure that everyone has a different view on it. I was raised in that divorce is not right, but yet the majority of people in my family are all divorced and remarried. I am recently divorced and it was the best thing I did. I married young and probably was not ready. There were problems from the get go. I never got a long with his family, he called me fat a lot, he went against my wishes in doing certain things. We spent a lot of time apart, vacationed apart, really lived in the same house but apart. Communication killed us. Mentally, I am a bit messed up from him. He is a good guy though and I think he has learned from many things that happened in our relationship. I divorced him and left and met a wonderful man who is soon to be my husband in a few weeks. We spend all of our time together, we shop together, go to the movies, and just hang out together. We discuss everything and share a lot of the same interests. I believe that everything happens for a reason and I am just so grateful I met my fiance.
So, I am not opposed to divorce depending on the situation.

Answer 9

I think that's a misconception. There are a few people that way, but most people who get divorces are having serious problems.
Sometimes I think a divorce is the best option. Being careful about marriage is a better option, but sometimes what's done is done.
When one of the two people decides to be a butt, the other person can't work a one-sided relationship. If they can't be persuaded to straighten up, then ending it and moving on is sometimes the best option.

Answer 10

People run because they have the easy out of divorce. I believe in divorce for certain siutations but not all. If people didn't have the out then they may not jump into marriage. Some people get married in order to have the big party and have people give them money...shallow as it is that is what happens. People need to get more in touch with what marriage really means and is and not take it so lightly.