Been in a relationship with my girlfriend going on 3 years. She has a son from a previous marriage, at age 16, divorced when she was 18 met me sometime after. We got together 6 months after. During the time we have been together, a lot of worries have come up. Such as the ex calling at odd hours of the night. About a year ago, I found out that she was talking about getting back together with him - for the sake of their son and that he can support them better than I can. I was told she considered it but would never really happen. I felt deceived as she did all this behind my back. I found out through his mother, calling my father and he told me what was happening. Another thing is when we have a fight - she calls him. For what? I think my question is, should I forget what has happened since she is still with me, or are feelings still lingering? Do you think she just likes the attention or maybe knows she has something to fall back on - how does that affect me?
2007-08-15 02:49:59 · 8 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't stay in a situation like this, for one she seems like she still is pretty immature and not ready for a relationship. She is obviously still attached to him, and you have every right to be upset. She should be talking to YOU about your disagreements, not an ex husband. Only you can decide what you're willing to put up with.
2007-08-15 02:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh boy..ok in my opinion she is not the good kind. She probably still has feelings for her ex. I mean, it is ok to be in touch with the father of her son...but she has no right to involve him you your relationship. And doing things behind your back?! i have a boyfriend who i've been with for only 4 months, and we tell each other everything...3 yrs? she should feel compelled to tell you every thing also...watch out
2007-08-15 09:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well who doesn't love that kind of attention?? Two people fighting for your attention?? I think she is really confused, and torn between you two. YOu need to lay it on the line, and put your foot down. Yeah,, it would be hard to trust her after hearing all that information that was previously done behind your back.
2007-08-15 09:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by trisha b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry no offense but your a sucker. Get out, why would you wanna take care of somebody elses kid anyways, thats not your problem. Be a man and learn some respect for yourself.
2007-08-15 10:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married at 16, divorced at 18, with you at 18.5... I do not think she knows what she wants and she obviously has not severed ties with her ex. Stay with her only if you want heart break, because she will break it
2007-08-15 10:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thnk you have got it right. You are just someone to fall back. It looks like she wants to be with her ex. Id say leave her to it, get on with your life, meet someone new.
2007-08-15 10:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is connecting with him at these times because of the son . Try not to be insecure and try talking to her instead. If she really loves you she will be able to put your mind at ease.
2007-08-15 09:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means you are not first in her life. If that's what you want in a relationship then stay, if you have more self respect than that, then move on.
2007-08-15 09:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋