2007-08-15 02:20:46 · 23 answers · asked by wht is diz (BOYCOTT ISRAEL) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get rid of her. she wants to cheat on you with her ex. she never got over her ex. and at any chance she'll dump you for her ex.
2007-08-15 02:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
The very first thing you should do is to tell her nicely not to talk to her ex and give her three chances, if she doesn’t listen to you then have a serious conversation with her about the reasons behind this and try to come to an accord by working out your emotional and relationship problems. May be she is contacting her due to the reason that you are not able to fulfill some needs or some obligations and she is shy to talk about it or not feeling comfortable talking to you about those things.
If you come to an agreement and you work out your differences than nothing is better than living and having a good time together but if you give everything you can to work out your differences (I don’t mean just giving up hanging out with your friends or stuff that don’t matter to her, sometimes some girls have different emotional and relationship requirements because remember they want to be with the guy who they are sure will take care of her and will be secure with him) and still she is not quitting it than I am afraid she is not loyal and most definitely not in love with you.
Forget about her (I know its very easy to say but very hard to do) Move on, go and find some one else, travel to some other places, countries, cities etc. and you will find the one you are looking for because she is not the only girl left over in the world for you. I know it is very hard to forget something like this especially when you share everything and moreover it hurts while going to the same places where you've been together and been doing all those things together etc when you use to share decisions but then again; why do you care for such a person who doesn't care about you ?? There are so many girls in the world who would Love you more than you would to yourself and may want to die for you (same goes for girls as well) so don’t let yourself go down if she dumps you or you dump her because you have to know your true worth first (I would say the same for the girls as well). If she is not for you and she is not paying attention to your needs than obviously she is not in Love but if you are a nice guy and doing all that you can for her and still you end breaking-up with her then she is the loser to loose a guy like you and not vice versa. Couple of my friends had the same problems and they went on a travel tour and it really really helped them, trust me (but don’t go alone for God sake).
Let me know if this helped.
2007-08-15 02:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend who is 24 is having this same problem! THe other way around. SHe is telling her bf not to contact his ex, but he won't listen!
Guess what she did? Told him to get out!
If you're not good enough for her, find someone else!
2007-08-15 02:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Brown Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you cannot tell your gf not to contact someone. You can tell her that you don't want her too, or you don't like it when she contacts her ex. Talk to her about exactly why you don't like her doing it. That's your only option other than breaking up with her.
2007-08-15 02:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you "telling her what to do?" As an independent woman I wouldn't respond to that. Also, why is she contacting her ex? Are they just friends? I was good friends with my ex during the last relationship I was in. My boyfriend didn't like it at first but he got used to it because he trusted me and met my ex. Do you know the ex? Do you trust her? if not, that is the real issue not whether or not she is 'obeying you."
2007-08-15 02:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Diana C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi...
you can't tell another person who they can talk with... it's rather CONTROLLING.
if your girlfriend talks to the ex boyfriend, then she does. you can't change it.
perhaps she isn't that serious about the relationship with you right now... consider it...
i am sure you will meet someone who wants to be committed to YOU someday... perhaps this girl doesn't want that sort of thing with you?
controlling others by telling them who they can talk with or what they are allowed to do, is a good way to lose friends and girlfriends, alike.
live and let live... take care. and i hope things work out
2007-08-15 02:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to explain to her nicely that youre not happy with her contacting her ex bf and that she has to choose between you and him.
2007-08-15 02:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Hodaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i actually just went through this situation with my boyfriend. That is just a hard bond to break because that was a friend of yours too so it is just hard to reassociate yourself with someone new. Tell her how you feel and ask her how it would make her feel if you were talking to your ex.
2007-08-15 02:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys need to talk it out ....Not you order her to do so she has to want to do so....Explain to her what you feel why it bothers you ...and that you feel insecure and you are afraid to lose her ....and if the shoe was on the other foot you would understand and stop talking to your ex....because unlike her you are respevting the relationship and her feelings....
2007-08-15 02:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Stranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on man ,, u r jsut makin it harder
why should a person worry that much about his gf ..??
if a gf makes troubles change her man ..
it's so easy man ,,
I am sure there so many bit*ch*s out there u can hang out with and call them girl friends,, mLOL
2007-08-15 02:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋