he said he is poly, and he has been in poly relationships, he said he is OCD(obsessive compulsive disorder) which means he has a thing with beautiful young women. He stayed friends with all his ex-gfs(talk to them and meet regularly).
he is quite good looking, and Im very interested in him, we have been dating for 2months, and he seems always seeks for other opportunities(although he always denies when I ask him), last time we went to a party, he flirted with other girls and asked for their emails. but he also said he wants the relationship with me and he likes me.
what is he thinking? what kind of person he is? Im asian and Im confused
2007-08-15 02:10:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, first of all, OCD has NOTHING to do with having a "thing with beautiful young women." I don't know of very many men alive (excluding gay men) who DON'T "have a thing" with beautiful young women. If this is the guy's only (or main) symptom, he doesn't have OCD.
Pretty much, this guy is a player and a cheater, but he's trying to justify it by calling it by another name. Continue to date this loser if you want to, but do it at your own risk. It sounds like he plans to leave himself open for sex with anyone else who comes along.
2007-08-15 02:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The medical condition of obsessive and compulsively wanting to have sex with many beautiful young women is more commonly referred to as "being a guy"
You are not confused, you are horny.
But you are ‘female horny’, which means on some level you know that sex could leave you pregnant, and that would require some (financial) support and commitment, from your sex partner.
So when you say ‘Relationship’ you mean ‘Sex AND a financial commitment in case I get pregnant’. Which (unspoken) means he shouldn’t be sleeping around because that could divide his financial commitment.
He wants sex and NO financial commitment.
And you’re saying: “But that’s not what a relationship is. I am Soooo confused. My God he’s cute and I would really like to have sex with him. If he could only figure out what ‘Relationship’ means. What is he thinking? Does he really have a medical condition?”
Most men eventually get to the point of commitment. But, as the saying goes, if the milks free, it’s hard to sell a cow.
Suggested Reading: 10 STUPID THINGS WOMEN DO TO MESS UP THEIR LIVES – Laura Schlessinger.
2007-08-15 10:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In big bold letters PLAYER, like the other answerer, he will never settle for only one person, he will Never have respect for anyone, and how could he when he sounds as if he doesn't have respect for himself? And you have dated 2 months and he is still getting emails, numbers and all from other girls, no i would say see ya, i am looking for a real man. Life is to short for you to be with someone that dosen't treat you with the respect you deserve. Good luck
2007-08-15 09:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how to stop your confusion...dump him! He is poly which means he will not be true to one person, but dates many at the same time. He is also obsessive/compulsive...that has nothing to do with other women...it means they get caught in a pattern and can not stop until someone stops them...i.e. tieing shoes and untieing and repeating this process until someone interrupts it.
The main thing is poly...he does not want one woman only, but many. If you are looking for a relationship where a guy is faithful to only you...this guy is NOT it! If you don't mind sharing your guy....this might be the guy for you.
be cool...
2007-08-15 09:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's using a new term, "polyamorous", for a 10,000 year old condition, called "I'm a selfish horny asshole who likes to bang as many trusting gullible chicks as I can."
Seems like you're next to join the Harem of Idiots, unless you grow a backbone and tell him to go f*ck himself, but by all means not you.
2007-08-15 12:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by salacious_crumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who tells all of his girl friends that he is ADD (attention deficit disorder) he isn't. He likes looking at and flirting with other women. This is an old trick....he gets away with murder.
2007-08-15 09:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a player. He will never settle into a one woman relationship. If you are looking for a commited boyfriend, this guy is not the one.
2007-08-15 09:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never heard that line before...I give him an A+ for creativity. Honey....I can't stress this enough....MOVE ON! He is TROUBLE. Ask yourself, can I be married to a man who behaves this way? If you answer is no, then move on. YOU will NOT change him.
2007-08-15 10:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, he will never treat you with respect. You can do much better
2007-08-15 09:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMB HIM!!! You really shouldn't stick with a guy like that, come on now!! LEAVE HIM!
2007-08-15 09:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by joedudez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋