Any advice?I just keep buying test knowing there going to be neg.,please help.
2007-08-15 01:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
don't worry for one thing it will happen when you are ready and i have a suggestion that you keep your mind off it for a wile so find something to do eg. knitting, do a course of some kind, just keep busy. i was like you once and spent a fortune on tests and i gave up all together and bought a young horse and broke him in my self, i was busy every day for two months and one day i just couldn't get on him and didn't know why, i went to the Dr and he said i was pregnant. i was ecstatic. we tryed for 2 years.
2007-08-21 15:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kate R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ban yourself from buying a hpt until you are atleast 7 days late. Ban yourself from the drugstore if needed. I know if the tests are well within reach you are much more likely to pee on it. I have one in the house, and I almost know for sure I wasn't pregnant this month, and I wanted to see anyways....crazy.
If you are using ovulation kits choose another method, like temperature charting, and call this chart your cycle for woman hood not child producing. Follow the moon cycles, see if this helps.
Another thing to try is not charting or trying at all. Have sex when you do, and don't plan when or how often, sometimes not knowing when you are ovulation is a better tool than knowing, specially if you are like me, and get tense about sex during ovulation because you'd like something to happen and forget to enjoy the sex!
Take up a hobby, perferably an active one (like someone said careful which hobby you choose). Keep busy physically and mentally will not only help your stress but help keep your mind busy.
Try some meditation daily. There are some nice guided ones on youtube. Clear your mind and find some peace during this stressful time.
Eat well, exersise, and have fun.
baby dust
2007-08-20 04:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by vegface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey babes, i'm totally understanding you on this one. The thing is everyone says you're not supposed to think about making bab'es and ttc...you're supposed to just make love and enjoy each other...but it's rather planned like a chore because we women have just peed on a stick and it has said we are ovulating..so we end up timing and having sex..even if we aint in the mood!! So i completely agree with some of the other ladies on here who say, their hubbies struggle too.. course they would. Anyway rant over!! For about 5 months now i have been monitoring until last month when af came and i got so upset, ended up spilling my hart out to mum... and she said don't stress, love one another and don't chart anything, let it happen naturally and it will. So this cycle i have been slightly naughty..been checking cm, and when it was ewcm and i had cramps i did my thing!! It has been really upsetting every month i have got a negative so now i am NOT going to pee on any sticks anymore...and if god wills that i am pregnant, i would rather wait for th signs my body gives me i.e. sickness etc. I have given up on them sticks, they cause more stress than we ladies know. In the days our parents were ttc, there were no sticks and tests...we need to relax don't you think? Dccuttie75 email me at meena.tailor@leicestercitypct.nhs.uk if you want someone to moan to...same for all you ladies in the same boat..we can exchange stories!! xx
2007-08-15 02:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to find something to take up your time!
I find the TWW to be soooo hard!!! I really just hoep and pray each month that some alarm will sound when we conceive so I don't have to wonder, hope, and wait for two weeks to see if my period shows up. It is such a pain, and I waste so much time evaluating any "feeling" I get to see if it is a symptom.
I've started doing more. I scrap book all the time now. I go out once a week and scrap book at a friend's house...and go and just spend time chatting with friends once a week. Hubby and I try to go golfing when we can. The more I do, the less time I have to buy HPTs and obsess over every little twinge and cramping I feel!!!!!!!!
This month, I have vowed not to test until I hit 12 DPO. I have two more days to go!!!! I almost gave in this morning and tested, but I held strong!
Good luck!!! I hope we all get positives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-15 02:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so right there with you in every way possible. I am tired of getting negatives on the OPK and HPT its so aggrivating but what I have learned is that I needed to stop making having a baby into a chore and thats what DH and I were doing we were forcing ourselves to have intercourse for TTC sake and it became no fun and sometimes DH couldnt even ejaculate because he wasn't into the whole chose sex thing so recently we have really became into eachother and stopped thinking baby and have just done so great we have been having sex every other day and its been going great I reallly dont know when my period is due because I have irregular cycles but when I do test at the end of august I am hoping for a BFP if not then we just move on to the next month.
2007-08-15 02:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had only been trying for 3 months before I had had enough (impatient, aren't I?). We are now on our 4th month and many things have changed. I no longer chart my BBT, I don't check CM, I don't stare longingly at baby clothes and I don't buy anything baby related. I just try not to constantly think baby because it was just making our sex lives about making a baby, not us sharing an intimate moment. It doesn't mean that I block TTC out completely (because I got a bit of spotting and am praying that its implantation) just limit it.
Good luck
2007-08-15 02:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Littlestars 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's time to quit. Unless you can take it to another level which is more likely to work, it's time to think about adoption or just about enjoying your spouse and borrowing nephews & nieces.
It is stressful. You don't want your marriage to fail under the stress, and you don't want to fall into depression, or find yourself in some stress-induced illness.
Take a vacation (if you can) and just the two of you go have fun, be active and enjoy yourselves, and if that means leaving the sex life behind, so be it. Just patch up your relationship. Worry about babies another time.
Hoping for you,
TX Mom
not a dr.
2007-08-21 16:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it most definitely is a pain in the a** but just think in the end it will be worth it that's what keeps me going month after month. i have only been trying 4 months now but it seems like an eternity for me i don;t know how people who try for years do it... i think maybe if i didn't test as often it would be easier but i can't stop myself i have to test first thing when i wake up. try to stay positive cause it IS worth it in the end!!!
good luck and baby dust to you
2007-08-15 02:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mitza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel your pain!! It is very stressful and frustrating, especially when you're timing everything "right." If I had known getting pregnant would be this hard, I would have started sooner. Good luck and be sure to keep us posted on your progress.
2007-08-15 03:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's TTCS (Trying To Conceive Syndrome).
I think about 99% of here suffer from it. It's the urge to POAS whenever we can!
Try to take up a new hobby.
My husband recommended that to me, but didn't realize that my new "hobby" would be obsessing over my cervical mucous, holding my urine for hours so it can be "concentrated" and using dozens of ovulation strips!
So choose your hobby carefully! :-)
2007-08-15 01:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋