what do i do...dont get me wrong...he's great looking in a richard madeley kind of way...it's just he's my boss and i've just gotten out of a relationship...he asked me out for a drink after work...i tld him i was supposed to be going out with a friend...*cringe*...what do i do?.x.
2007-08-15 01:26:31 · 44 answers · asked by *!_wtf_!* 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Where I work there is a whole class we have to attend about integrity and sexual harrassment.
Be aware that if you become involved in a relationship with him you shouldn't be allowed to work under him, one of you would have to change departments
that is just the rules where I work tho
please be careful if you have no company guidelines to back you up
2007-08-15 01:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear poor you, here's my advice stay away from him. Tell him you have a boy friend and then thank him kindly for asking you out (say you've recently made it up with your boyfriend).
Reason: All most all romances with the boss end in heartbreak and it is usually the employee that ends up getting hurt because they become a source of embarrassment to the boss if the relationship goes pear shaped. And peers get very jealous and make up things that are not true and normally and almost always the employees will end up losing their job or asked to leave as their position becomes untenable.
This is statistically true and there is written evidence to substantiate what I'm saying. So give him a wide birth but do it in the nicest possible way so that he is not offended.
2007-08-15 01:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying, "Don't dip your pen in the company ink".
I would suggest you not go out with your boss and keep your relationship strictly professional. If he is asking you out for a drink, are you sending him the wrong signals? Maybe? Just smile and tell him that you have other commitments.
2007-08-15 01:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by blanchardchristina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you ignore him and look for a new job.
Malika is right - this is playing with fire, girl, more than you realise. He could destroy you and your reputation. He's richer, more powerful, more influential than you and you can't win. Be tooo busy - don''t go to drinks or dinner. You can't win if you do!
You don't want to get involved,but you do want a good reference, and you'll get it easier sooner rather than later - if he thinks he still has a chance, much better than if you have had some almighty personal arguement. Wise up. Stop cringing and start acting. Get a reference and get out.
2007-08-15 01:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't have self assurance lots of the loopy solutions others have supplied! Sleep together with her now and get promoted? that could desire to get you in serious worry at abode and at paintings. till you do think of you have got an affair with this female and you circulate into it along with your eyes open, you need to be very careful. it may seem that that is case of sexual harassment. the 1st element to do is to collect a checklist, from reminiscence of the incidents in touch. to any extent further initiate protecting a diary and make an remark of each and every time there's a harassing/bullying incident. attempt to maintain a notice of others who witness those incidents. Then circulate on your boss and tell her of her concern. tell her that think approximately a checklist of what has befell and which you have witnesses (do no longer call them). tell her which you anticipate it to cease and which you do no longer anticipate to be vitimised or dealt with badly considering you have raised it. tell her which you appreciate her as a md yet do no longer welcome her sexual advances. reckoning on her reaction and no rely if it does cease, you may might desire to circulate to her extra suitable. if the corporate does not than handle the concern you have got a valid declare to an employment tribunal.
2016-10-02 08:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a richard madeley way lol. uhm, yeah i would just keep sayin i'm busy, he'll soon get the message. or you could tell the truth, that you aren't ready for another relationship just yet, he'd probably understand.
2007-08-15 01:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up that you just got out of a relationship but if he seems like the type that would fire you or make your work a living hell then just some time mention that you feel misrable and then he should ask why and then you tell him cuz you just got out of a tough relationship then see what he does.
2007-08-15 01:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by MrsValo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it as he is only after your body and he is probably married. When it is all over you would be in a difficult position and would surely have to give up your job. If he persists and you do not want his attention keep a record of every occasion that he pesters you then when you are ready just mention sexual harassment to him. That will stop him in his tracks.
2007-08-15 01:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by ANF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him you know you are not interested - think of the long term , having a relationship with your boss might be great at the time , when you break up (I'm not saying you will but if you do) then whats going to happen.one guy wrote sex=promotion but what does breakup =??
2007-08-15 01:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Catfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't involve relationship with work because if you have problems at work you will have problems in your relationship and vise versa. if your boss didn;t stop asking you out just tell him that you are in a serious relationship so he could make some space and if he didn't care just look for another job.
Hope my advice works
2007-08-15 01:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by $iM$iM@ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋