I see that people come down on people that choose not to get married but choose to have a family together. Does two people with are happy live together own their home, have stable income and job looked down upon just because they choose not to get married..
2007-08-15 01:24:13 · 6 answers · asked by kylisphant 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Having a family as you describe without marriage, is like building a wall of bricks with no mortar. Marriage is the cement that holds it all together when it is under stress. Marriage means more than living together or producing children.
Two people can have a commitment to each other. Married people have an additional dimension. They have a commitment to each other and a commitment to the marriage. This may not seem like much of a distinction but it is vastly different.
A commitment to each other is important but as I have found in my marriage people change. Without a commitment to the marriage it is far too easy to cut the cord and walk away. There may be times of extreme difficulty. One partner may become ill, disabled, suffer from emotional problems. or any of a long list of unexpected, unanticipated difficulty.
There are times when the two will not even like each other anymore or will have doubts that they even want to be near this person. But if the commitment to each other seems to be waining the commitment to the marriage can still hold them together. Often, as time passes and emotions cool, these married people discover each other again and realize how much they really mean to each other and to their offspring.
This is what I mean by the cement that holds them together. After the storm subsides what they have built is still standing or as I like to say, after I am done being a real jerk there is still somone there to apologize to.
2007-08-15 01:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to feel that marriage was just a piece of paper, but (without getting too personal). My first major relationship with a man (the father of my oldest child) failed and I think alot of it had to do with the fact that we were not married. Marriage makes you work harder at fixing problems and you know you can't just pick up and leave.
2007-08-15 08:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chickenfarmer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the idea is if your not married, technically its an open relationship, because anybody can just leave. and what if (god forbid) you two seperate? uh oh! no benefits and the other can leave scot free.
2007-08-15 09:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Random Black Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Woman have sex to be loved----Men love to have sex."
Our very young do not know this, I do mean are very young!!!
They are harmed by it in various ways, especially the female
she carries the baby! The elders are youth's example, You can' say, Don't do as I do, do as I say.
2007-08-15 08:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a serious commitment.
2007-08-15 09:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Q guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because...no one wants to be illegitimate...
2007-08-15 09:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋