If you KNEW you were going to get a divorce?

Question

would you still get married?

Hypothetically, of course.

I'm happily married and to answer my own question, yes, I would have still married even if I KNEW it would end in a divorce.

Answer 1

NO. If I knew for fact it would end in divorce, I wouldn't have married my husband. I love him, but why would I waste my time and his, knowing it was going to end badly. How could we build a life? I don't want my kids to go through all of that either.
If I know it's going to end, I wouldn't put forth the effort to keep the relationship good, I wouldn't want to compromise on anything, it would make me a very negative person. I would figure , why bother, it's just going to end anyway. I would have no hope or dreams of the future and how it could be. I personally couldn't live like that.

Answer 2

with my 1st marriage I had feelings it was doomed from the start we'd been forced into a shared housing arrangement with 3 other people and a toddler (the toddlers mother was his ex girlfriend ) because my mum had to rent a smaller place and us kids couldnt go with her I was 16 youngest of 5 , I spent a lot of time with 1st husband he was fun exciting and a bit of a tramp we went up the coast and we'd camp swim bbq by the beach and for that 6 months it was the best time of my life somewhere in that time he went from being my best friend in the house to being my lover I found out I was pregnant (living proof the pill is not 100 % effective) and we moved together into a smaller house to try it out alone we moved around a lot from house to house and explored new ways of entertaining ourselves and our kids by our 6th year we owned our own home we had 2 children and I was pregnant with our 3rd and by then I knew my worries about us not lasting was true so I married him we had another child and 18 months later he walked because I asked him to.....

4 kids who I love with all my heart and soul and couldnt picture my life without , but if I could turn back time and know that the feeling of doubt in my stomach about us lasting was true and as selfish as it sounds no I wouldnt have married him or lived with him or had his kids and to be honest they probably would have been better off my ex husband is a very abusive man he didnt show that side until I matured after our 2nd son which is why I think they would have been better off ....

Answer 3

When you think bad things then bad things happen. We tend to speak things into existence. Like Hypochondriacs they make themselves think they are sick for so long they become sick so if one believes that they are going to get a divorce and don't even give it a chance to play itself out then they will unconsciously push and push until it happens. We don't know what God has planned for us, so don't try and do things by ourselves just pray and ask God for some clarity and his help. Don't be getting married just because some random person you are dating asked but because you both believe that it will work. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and people when don't take it seriously are plum crazy LOL

Answer 4

Yes I would. I have 2 wonderful children and even though my marriage ended in divorce, I would not of had my kids had it not been for the ex.

Answer 5

no, if I had known my husband was lusting after my 13 year old bridesmaid I would never have married him, when she got to 16 they had an affair and I caught them at it, if I had known that then I would never have wasted the time and money getting married to him.

Answer 6

yup, i would do it to get my kids. it would be nice if the ex would die in a flaming car crash but what are ya gonna do?

Answer 7

depends on what caused the divorce... :D

Answer 8

i would not have beem married then