Why is Asian gals so shy?

Question

I am an asian myself. Yet, to be honest. I understand most of the Asian gals are shier than American gals base on their behavior and everyday life. It really hard for me to ask them out or anything like that. More importantly, many asian gals marry white guys these days and barely any asian guys marry white gals. Is it really true that maybe because I am just not brave enough to get gal's attention or is there some white attraction that I am not known of?

Answer 1

Most Asian guys are equally as shy, so nothing ever really happens. Whities ask us out and we can be guaranteed we feel attractive for once, theyre cute too. Its also traditional that guys ask girls out so it may be why Asian guys aren't getting white girls too(based on the shy factor). It seems most Asian guys only like airbrushed movie stars, or manga, anime. Sorry but no sane girl would ever feel they could match up. Most Asian guys are also content sitting at their computers playing games and most of the girls sitting next to them cant be bothered waiting around to get noticed.
Pride, from the (boys are best) Asian culture also makes you treat us like **** in front of others (your Asian guy friends).
Whilst were on the topic of stereotyping.. I guess i also dont have respect for Asian guys who allow their friends to criticize us girls because secretly they are jealous they dont have one
Grrrr dont blame us. its all your fault.
Well somewhere to vent my otherwise shy demeanor

Answer 2

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Why is Asian gals so shy?
I am an asian myself. Yet, to be honest. I understand most of the Asian gals are shier than American gals base on their behavior and everyday life. It really hard for me to ask them out or anything like that. More importantly, many asian gals marry white guys these days and barely any asian guys...

Answer 3

I think it depends on which generation in the new culture we are talking about. Yes, their is a secret to attraction and life in general. It's the intuition. Look up things like that and Emotional Intelligence. It's like we know our logical side and nothing about out emotional side. That causes a real problem, because we are secretly led by our emotions and much of our thinking is twisted to satisfy our feelings. In short anything ignored becomes the most important thing. One missing leg and the whole chair falls over no matter how good the other legs are and emotions are actually more powerful than reason, usually. Get this down and you will have the problem of choosing only the best, because You will have too many applicants and some may be bad for you. Nice problem, huh? Oh, and becoming too arrogant. lol You may have to practice a little shyness to keep balanced.

Answer 4

Shyness is anxiety and that maybe comes from the fact that asian parents and schools have more tendency to shame their kids, have incredibly high standards for them and physically beat them in public. Shaming studies have been done and apparently, it produces anti-social behaviors and PTSD. I'm Asian, raised in Asia. Been shamed, slapped, beaten and whipped with a bunch of sticks all my life.. I have severe anxiety/depression and PTSD. Simple things/situations make me freeze up and clamp up and I have no idea why. I am "shy" and I hate how illogical it is. Now that I live here in Canada, I'm getting help but I do find it physically, emotionally and mentally difficult to be as confidant as my local friends because of the demons of my past.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I <3 asians. I do. But I cant bring myself to talk to one exactly because of that reason. Guys need to be strong and brave and if we're shy (and that's not so uncommon) and like a type of girl we will just stutter, mutter and feel embarrassed. So, in order to avoid that complication altogether we aim for something that doesn't impact us that much. Also, it is easier to talk with outgoing girls because frankly, they contribute to the conversation. Shy girls will usually just listen silently and the silence will just make us feel more embarrased. As for asians I'm not sure.. perhaps it is something about their gaze that drowns a man.

Answer 7

I'm part Asian myself. I'm 40, but my Asian friends growing up had different expectations placed on they by their families. For example, dating was discouraged through HS because we were supposed to get A's and go to an Ivy League School. If we were allowed to date, we were encouraged to stick to the same gene pool, even if the community was pretty small. Also, the Asian guys were often more formal and shy about asking out any girl, not just Asian girls.

Don't know if that's what's going on for your circle of friends.

Answer 8

First of all, you should avoid making generalizations about "Asian gals." That lumps Japanese, Chinese, Koreans, Vietnamese, Thai, Filipinos, Indians, etc. into a single category. Most assuredly, girls from those respective cultures do not behave identically to one another or have identical values or personalities.

Also, you are making a really big mistake in lumping American-born Asian gals into the same group as gals from the old country. I am third-generation American of Japanese descent. I don't speak Japanese (English, and a little college Spanish), and you can be pretty sure that no one confuses me with girls who are born and raised in Japan. Am I, in your view, an "Asian gal," or an "American gal?"

I will share that I have dated exactly three Asian guys (one Korean, one Vietnamese, and one Japanese) in my entire life. Why? Mostly because Asian guys never asked me out. I don't know for sure why, but my theory is because my appearance doesn't fit the Asian aesthetic that a lot of Asian guys are hung up on, i.e., I'm built like a peasant, not a geisha --I'm stocky, not petite and slender. I'm also pretty boisterous and not deferential. Fortunately for me, there are plenty of white, black, and latino guys who think I looked just fine -- and that's who I ended up dating my whole life.

My best suggestion for you is this: open your mind to any ethnicity you find attractive. White, black, Latino, Asian, Asian-American -- all of them. Then join match.com and go after all of them. E-mail is an excellent medium for shy people to introduce themselves to one another. (And it's a hell of a lot easier than approaching a girl in a bar!) Once you get the courage, you can work up to a phone call, then to a live date. Seriously- you can do this.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I don't think all asian girls are shy. Actually they are much more confident in themselves than their male counterparts. Espcially in their youth (at least in America). They are very smart, very ambitious to the point where they can be very devious and manipulative. They expect their guys to have lots of self confidence. They expect their guys to pamper them and treat them special.--The guy's they detest are nerdy, low self-esteem, non-athletic, self-centered selfish jerks. If you have money is a big plus! As for asian or white is up to personal taste! (like what color car you want to buy.)

Answer 10

Well I'm Asian -Chinese to be exact. Im pretty shy when i first meet someone but as i get to know someone more -I act much more open. Depends if I am feeling comfortable in my enviroment I'll act like crazy weird outspoken self. I guess most Asian girls are suckers for blue or green eyes [so am I] but I love Italian features b.c the dark hair and eyes are really sexy.

Answer 11

I am in Canada and not all especially the ones here...lol many of my friends are so outspoken they border on obnoxious :)
BUt it is true many more choose to marry white men than asians especially fillipinos