what is wrong with second wife?

Question

if man have the ability to mary more than one wife what is wrong with that

Answer 1

salam alikom abdulrahman...
the problem isn't in the concept itself...it's with the first wife....
some men use that right to humiliate women....if he can't force her to do sth he'd threaten her to get married once more....
as for me...i would never ever agrees to share my husband with another woman...if i did then i dnt love him...
and remember being financially able to marry 2 and three and four wives is not the only condition...you must be able to balance everything including love and emotion and Allah said and you won't be able to do that..and Allah knows best for his servants.....
second wife is permitted for certain conditions...so a man can marry a poor woman so he can give her shelter.....etc.

I'll still emphasis on"you wont be able to balance" "ولن تعدلوا"

Answer 2

I'm a christian, and (GASP.... ) I belive that theoretically it is not wrong or a bad thing to marry more than one woman. However... I also believe that this is not for most men out there, and that includes me. I have a hard enough time working on one marriage, two or three women, now that would be the kiss of death to whatever is left of my finances. Yes, if the man wants to marry another woman as well, then the first wives definitelly have a say in whether that is ok or not. You mentioned divorce... That is a big NO. The only allowable reason for divorce is adultery (and I might say some cases of abuse) but other than that no way. Having more than one wife is also not a necessary thing these days anymore because now child mortality is very low compared to patriarchal times. If my current wife would not agree with me having more than one wife, that would be the end of discussion. I would stop thinking about getting another wife. There are also legality issues, and I've got enough headaches, I don't think I'd want to deal with that kind of stuff.

Answer 3

If you have lots of money and buy up all the foodgrains in your country while others starve, then that isn't right. Well, that was on a lighter note.
A husband can not be equally loving and caring to multiple wives. When there is more than one wife, there will be favouritism towards the youngest or the prettiest. Marriage is an institution where a man and a woman pledge themselves solely to each other. Polygamy or polyandry violates the essential ingredient of marriage. It is quite possible that a man may not love his only wife. In that case there is legal redress.

Answer 4

In Islam if you wish to marry another woman you should have a good reason ,not just for having more wives or more sex.
Marriage is supposed to have in addition to love compassion and mercy and responsibility and also fair.
Now can a man any man provide a woman with all that.
The answer is No.
Can you fell your wife's life that she doesn't need some one else,not physically ,mentally or financially .The answer is no you can't ,and I talking about one woman here because if you can't fulfill one woman's life then you can't have more than one.Allah said you may marry more than one if you have sufficient reasons,can't have kids,can't have sex,can't fulfill her marital ditties but even then you have to be fair to all and treat all of Them same way ,in every aspect of life.Allah said so in Quran if you can't do so then don't (marry more than one).
You have to remember that they have the same feelings as you do and a woman can be your mom,your sister or your daughter .I don't think you 'd approve of any miss behavior to any of your relatives so treat others the same way.
Don't give Islam a bad name .

Answer 5

There's actually nothing wrong with it other than a law made by a morally imposing government. Same as same sex marriages.

The problem with morals is not everyone has the same ones.

If the people involved have no problems with it, then I and the others not involved shouldn't have a problem with it.

Soapbox speakers are one of the biggest problems in the world if you ask me.

Answer 6

nothing, its a cultural thing. western women will dislike this alot because it is very "degrading" to women; however, in many cultures, having many wives is the norm. lets be realistic and not say stupid things like "Why can't women have multiple husbands?". They don't and can't. like i said, its a cultural/ religious issue. there is nothing wrong with marrying more than 1 wife. to some it may seem taboo but to others its normal. women who have husbands that have more than one wife don't feel the same as western women and think its ok.

Answer 7

well it is way this days you have money to support second wife i don't see any problem that too when if first wife does not have objection if she has got problem like any long prolonged disease or she doesn't have ability to have a child
then .that is my opinion .well your attitude is what i don't know if write something openly probably you may not like it..sorry brother no hard feeling .i just gave my opinion

Answer 8

do you mean at the same time?
my husband is on his 3rd marriage with me(hes only 30) and he feels ashamed to tell people because of the reactions he gets.
its just society,i mean no one frowns at a man having 20 girlfriends one after the other,but 2 wives and hes a dog.
ignore any negative views.

Answer 9

It depends on your religion. Christianity practises monogamy. I believe a person must be loyal to his spouse to make the marriage work and long lasting. If you have many wives, how can you surely divide your time so there will be no jealousy or favoritism pitted one with another? When in crisis, who will you attend first? Your life will be complicated.

Answer 10

I used to want my husband to have a few wives. I thought we could all pitch in and work together. I was tired and just thought of extra wives as help. Help cleaning, help making money, help keeping my husband happy... the problem is PMS. If it wasn't for PMS it would work. That's probably why mormans marry young girls.