Do let them do what they like and don't bother them? or do you tell every body that he is useless person to speak with because he is liar anyway?
2007-08-14 22:01:42 · 20 answers · asked by hazelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have lived with such a person. First of all I look into myself to see when and where I have also lied. I then say to myself, `I am sorry.` I forgive myself for having lied. Then I say to myself, `I love you `. Funny thing is that when I first tried this, I didn`t hear another lie for a long time. When I did, it worked again. This taught me a lot. What it taught me is that people very often respond to me in the way that I am afraid they will.
Strange, really. You know, maybe this person lies to the people who resent his lies the most, just maybe. Why not try the experiment for your own benefit, just to see if it works. You might get an interesting result.
Anyhow if you go around spreading negativety about someone else, you won`t get good results. So much the worse for you if you are right. Being right is not all that counts.
Thank you for the reminder, ...........Enjoy!
2007-08-15 08:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I do tell other people that the person is a complete liar - in case there's some threat in him to other people, or in case I'm just overemotional about the fact, but it depends on the kind of lie the person tells.
I try to be calm when I catch someone lying though, because I know I can't change much. I might not even show that I've found out the truth.
2007-08-14 22:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Yana U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn that's hard. You haven't said your relationship to this guy? If the lies aren't hurting anyone, I'd probably stay out of it. A lot of people lie about everyday things and nothing comes of it. But, if his lies will hurt someone... I'm assuming you aren't close with him as you call him a liar, so I'd so tell the person who his lies will hurt and let them decide what to do. If you do this though, be aware of the consequences - a lot of people prefer the lies over the truth and you're the one who'll get called a b*tch for disillusioning them... and then they won't believe you anyway.
BUT, if you're an ex of this guy, don't even go there. You'll just get the labelled as the "bitter ex"... and then they won't believe you anyway.
Hmm, it might be best just to stay out of it unless he'll hurt someone you care about, i guess it's up to you what you're willing to risk to reveal his lies.
2007-08-14 22:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When someone lying the first time, he will need another ten lies to cover up the first one. Thus they will keep lying. The best way to stop them from keeps on lying is to ignore them from the first time they lied.
2007-08-14 22:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL BLOWING UP A LIAR: WILL ONLY HELP THEM CREATE NEW LIES ON YOU. GET A TAPE RECORDER AND DONT LET HIM KNOW YOU HAVE TELL HIM SOMETHING YOU ARE SURE HE WILL LIE ABOUT. WAIT A DAY COME BACK AND ASK HIM THE SAME THING IN DIFFERENT WAY. (WAIT FOR THE NEW LIE )POP OUT YOUR RECORDER AND SCREAM I GOT YOUR LYING SELF ON TAPE. THEN JUST NOT EVER SPEAK TO HIM ABOUT ANYTHING AGAIN. PROOF
2007-08-14 22:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by CEYISHA S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i will tell him that i have know the truth, i will ask confession from him, i will advice him to stop lying, coz it will hurt people in somehow someway, but if he refuse to listen, and if he still persist in he didn't do anything wrong, and if he think i have step over his privacy, and interfere too much, well i will give up, i will walk away with all his lies, coz the more i talk, the more he will think im a stalker who try to hurt him.
and he will never know that i actually care for him.
2007-08-14 22:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by moonrider 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull them up short when they are in your presence and say "Oh but I thought you told me the other day such and such". They will soon learn not to lie when they are with you. Also by doing this, you are subtlety letting others know they tell fibs.
2007-08-14 22:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes the person is useless,
leave them to carry on lying find new person to talk to
2007-08-14 22:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick em to the curb, I can't stand liars. I don't see the point in talking with someone who has to think up answers.
2007-08-14 22:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by jcampwick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do let them do what they like....camon lets be practical ...most of us here must have lied to someone or the other....we lie to our friends..our parents..and everyone jst to keep up the reputation...but i guess the impact of lies differs from person to person....
eg: if a custom officer asked me what are u carrying in your luggage and i wud simply shrug him off as if there was nuthing in my bags ...whereas i wud be carrying loads of stuff...
everyone is entitelled to lead their lifes as they like....if the person ur trying to correct knows tihs fact of lying being bad and still going about lying...then u reallly cant do much...cause its his or their life....
i guess u simply need to shut up and not influence others with ur ideas bout this person...let others decide bout him based upon their interaction with him
2007-08-14 22:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by anand 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋