my (half) sister moved in with us 5 months ago, she's 25 and my dad was really excited because he divorced her mom when she was four and he barely got to spend time with her. he thought he was going to get "another" daughter even though she always was his daughter. she had just broke up with a boyfriend that had been a stalker and my dad and MY mom paid ALL of her bills from her old apartment so she could get away from the guy. My parents didnt make her clean at all (a big deal in my house) and the only rule was that she slept in her own bed ;) well, she didnt like that and started coming home at 2:30 a.m. usually dropped off by her bf pat whom she has known for 11 weeks. well yesterday i was with all my friends and she says she's moving out. just like that. i'm not sad or happy, but i'm really mad because it CRUSHED my poor dad's heart. all she did was use us and now i'm really mad because she hurt my dad. he finally thought he was gonna get to be her daddy again after 21 years...
2007-08-14 19:10:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and all she's done is use us and it SUCKS
2007-08-14 19:10:41 · update #1
she keeps saying well there's tension but she doesnt get she MADE the tension and then she's like this is how to fix it and she said i think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread but what about us?!?!?!
what about the fact that my sister and i moved into the same room so she could live with us? we spent over $4000 on her room and bills and my dad was so HAPPY, i hate her right now and im not talking to her because of how she's gone about it. She told my dad at 6 in the morning and ran out for work. she didnt even have the GUTS to tell him she was moving out at 5 in the evening like an ADULT. My dad is so sad and she doesnt even CARE. i mean he begged her to stay and she just said nope im livin with my boyfriend. she disobeyed my parents and couldnt follow the only rule they gave her: come home at night. am i wrong for being so angry with her?
2007-08-14 19:20:57 · update #2
BTW SHE'S MOVIN IN WITH HER BOYFRIEND PAT, KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR 12 WEEKS
2007-08-14 19:22:10 · update #3
I'm sorry.
I don't think there is much you can do, because for some reason I have the sinking feeling that your sister is going to get pregnant and then Mr. Twelve Week Boyfriend is gonna dump her and she will come crwling back to you guys.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this type of situation, but I would just see how it works out... and if she needs you, just try to be supportive and forgiving without getting used again.
Your dad seems like a real nice guy... just continue being a great daughter to him and try to make him happy and make sure you tell him you know it's not his fault.
God bless!
2007-08-14 19:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by newsiesno1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're probably better off without her there. She wouldn't play by the rules of the house and that's just plain wrong. It's my house and my rules. If you live here you do as I say. Okay, she is 25 but that's no excuse. You all helped her in her hour of need, now she's gone again. She'll be back if she cares at all about your dad. If there's tension, maybe you can be the bigger person and try to accept her a little more. Maybe she was raised by an inconsiderate person who was the same way. It's a shame that your dad had to be hurt this way, but he's an adult and will live with it. Does she talk to your dad still? If not oh well! She's not worth the time or effort. Get on with your own life and not worry about her so much.
2007-08-22 12:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone thought about this? Really thought about it?
The tension you mention, is it possible that you are part of this tension? You made it pretty clear that you dislike her. Does she even feel welcome, other than your dad making it so?
You go on about her not doing chores, and you say 'WE' paid her bills, so I can only assume that you personally coughed up a big chunk of that change to do it. Yes?
I cant say either way on the 12 week boyfriend. I met and married mine in less than 4 and it's lasted for many years so I cant lay judgement on that.
I think your dad will find a way to talk with her and let her know how he feels and I am sure that he and she have had their talks outside of your presence. Dads are pretty tough.
Im not real sure what to think. You say 11 weeks, then you say 12 weeks.....*shrug*
2007-08-21 15:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by TBS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your father and your family. But there is a less to be learned from here. Don't get into to things blinded because you don't know what to expect in the long run. I feel for your dad trying to be the best dad. But he does not have to prove that to her. Because he know that his is a good father and husband because he has you and your mom and a home full of love. Take care and hope in the future your father puts his foot down and doesn't deal with that crap anymore.
2007-08-21 21:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 25 and can do as she pleases.Just hope that your dad learned not bail her out again.Be there for your dad and let him know how much he means to you.Forget about her.She may come around in time but,for now don't waste your energy on hating her.Get on with your life.
2007-08-22 14:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dnt worry about her, im sorry ur dad is so crush. but when she gets out ther, in the real world and start catching hell (problems) , she is going to wish she was at home with u guys..... by then it would probably be to late ..... just remind her that she made her choice so dea with it. its hard living with a guy, firstly u have to do as he wants u to or he will kick ur a$$ out, secondly ur going to be his F***slave, honey wen she start experiencing these things she is gonna run home. so let her catch hell to teach some sense. and pray for her that her boy friend dont cheat or beat her. good luck and God bless u and ur dad.
2007-08-21 22:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweetbahama mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't wrong to be mad at her but make sure that you be the better person and control your anger while calmly telling her what you think of her actions. I am sorry that this happened to you and I wish you good luck, but this was the only question that I could find;D
Good luck and thanks for answering my question!
2007-08-20 11:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your sister. you are not paying the bills it was your folks. you don't have to do nothing but be there fore her when she falls and tha ti what you should do. you are sisters for life not today only. i know you dont' like what shes done but that is her life not yours you know how she is learn from it and keep going just be there for her someday you will understand why
2007-08-21 23:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will be back begging forgiveness.
2007-08-21 13:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by git r done 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋