Does anyone know why my husband looks at blonde women?

Question

My husband and I have been together for seven years and every now and then I catch him looking at pictures of female celebrities and they're ALL blonde! When I see all the browsing history on my computer of the females he denies looking at them. He's swore he loves me, but I feel like maybe he "settled" for me cause he was in a dating rut. I'm a brunette and about 60 pounds overweight. I look nothing like what he looks at. Should I be worried?

Sorry I forgot to mention that it's his avatar..lol I use this profile I should change it huh? hehehe
Thanks!

Answer 1

na as long as he isnt actting upon his infactuation with blondes i think its harmless although i know exactly how u feel..my husband is always saying he's more attracted to brunettes but every time he mentions girls or i catch him looking at a girl 80% of the time they are younger, blonde, big boobs, and tiny waist.. everything i am not .. and it hurts, u feel as though u have to compete but u cant, and dyeing ur hair wont matter u'll never be them.. I think its wanting what u cant have.. i think its wanting something then u already got.. in their minds, for instance i think if u were blonde he'd probably be looking at brunettes.. just cause they are different then u.. does it mean he wants them, no.. i mean im sure ur husband is no super model himself.. my husband knows i have the hots for Mathew McConaughey, and he knows i have a weakness for Tall dark and handsome men as well, which he is pretty much the opposite of that.. but does that mean i dont find him attractive, NOPE cause i definately do.. Does that mean i compare him to those guys, Nope like him the way he is.. just means that i find them appealing.. do i go hunting down pictures of these men, no.. but then again women are mostly emotional creatures while men are more about the physical.. we will fall inlove with a personality of a character in a movie.. they fall into lust over the girl character in the movie and dont even realize she has a personality lol..

I have really bad insecurity issues.. so i know how badly this eats u up inside.. but u have to ask urself, does ur husband love u? does he show his love for u ? Does he say that he's unhappy with how u look? if all points to the fact that all ur going by is the fact that he's allured by blondes and not doing anything to really breach ur marriage.. and not actting upon his curiousity of blondes then u and i both need to realize that our husbands love us.. and realize that alot of it is our own insecurities of not being happy with ourselves, because maybe if we were more confident in ourselves and who we are, maybe we wouldnt care so much about them looking at blondes.. because we'd have the additude and the confidence to realize that if they cant see that we are worth more then those pictures of the blondes, then they are no Mathew McConaughey and just say the word and we'll go find someone that is more like Mathew lol..

Answer 2

A dye kit is under twenty bucks and the weight can be lost to an extent. We all settle or end up alone. I'm sure he's looked at women with other hair types as well. You seem to have a need to catch him or snoop his browser history. Why not spend this time making yourself pretty for him instead? How could he not notice the change and give more attention to you?

Answer 3

Hey everyone wishes they had the other side of the street,, the grass isnt always as green over there,, so do this, gather all his underwear up,, get plastic wrap,, make a funny note that if he loves blondes better, he needs to be moved in a week and gone,, then close it up freeze them, denie it and do this when all his shorts are out,, lol,, then when hes bitchin throw them at him,, , and go to the mall shopping cell off.
that will work. lol,, im such a clown.

Answer 4

as long as he just looks and it's just pictures and not smut, it's fine. maybe he just has an artistic streak and is able to appreciate without obsessing.
Love is another matter. Looks are only a small part of it. If he comes home to you, sleeps with you, and enjoys being with you, you're fine.
It wouldn't hurt to try and look pretty for him, though, for the reason that you appreciate him loving you no matter what. Keeping yourself healthy would not hurt, too. If he really loves you, he would want you to live a long time.

Answer 5

He looks at them because he's not blind...Let him fantasize if he wants...its all just fantasy....STOP analyzing why he married you...just accept he loves you even if you're brunette and 60 lbs overweight....If your insecurity is an issue...work on your weight and highlight your hair....you'd still be the same chic he vowed to spend the rest of his life with.

Don't tell me you never looked at Brad Pitt or Matt Damon or The Transporter guy.

Answer 6

If he swears he loves you and ends up in bed with you every night, then perhaps you should be a little more gentle on him about his apparent like to look at blonde celebrities. If you keep pushing him about the issue, it might push him to leave you in search of a blonde who isn't so insecure.

Answer 7

Eyes have no covers. With men that the weakest part we have even if you are present, we much look anyway either you are aware of it or not paying attention to it. It nature we don't do it becoz of disrespecting you, we just find ourself in such a situation. One day if you are a woman, try to observe your husband when you all go out and see how often would he turn side to side and who does he see and ask him that question and see how first he will dogde to something else to convince you that he wasn't. did not see her

Answer 8

There is no one like you- there is just one you. He may look, but remember that you have a relationship and he is with you for a reason. He may look, but so does all men- a man can actually seperate the difference between LOVE and SEX- and you need to seperate staring at a stranger from being with who you love.

Answer 9

Don't bother worrying; it's a useless activity.

Get busy and lose at least 50 of those 60 pounds, and bleach your hair blond.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Your husband likes blonde women.

Should you be worried? Probably not, but it wouldn't hurt to lose the weight; at least that demonstrates that you're still willing to fight for the relationship and maybe he'll make similar committments to fight for you.