I'm Pregnant and unsure what to do? HELP ME PLEASE?

Question

I have just found out that i am 2 months pregnant. I am 23 years old the father and I split up about 4 months ago but thought that a one night thing would releave us which it did, but the condom didn't do its thing. I have told the father whom said that he would support me with what ever decision i make, but that he was more on the "keeping" side of things, but would still support me if i had a T.O.P. I am really confused and under pessure as i only have 2 weeks to make a decision.
Does anyone have any ideas, or thought that could help shared a light on the decision making?????????

Answer 1

2 weeks isn't a lot of time to make such an important decision. If I were you I would make an appt with a counselor ASAP. If at the end of the 2 weeks you have ANY doubts, reservations, or just bad feelings about the TOP then don't do it.

Answer 2

Dear friend,

I want to help you. I am not saying any of this to be narrow minded or pushy. I honestly think that this is the best advice. I will however be blunt... please hear me out. A baby is a blessing from God, no matter the circumstances that caused it. This is a decision that could haunt you the rest of your life. If you have an abortion, you will live with the knowledge that you killed your own baby and you will never ever be able to undo that. No matter whether your views on abortion changes or not. I can't stress enough how much you could regret this. If you have the baby, you will find out that a birth is a happy event and the baby is a miracle.
If you do not feel prepared to accept the responsibility of a baby, then you can give it up for adoption. There are many people who want to be parents that will even help you through the entire pregnancy and be there for the birth and even let you have contact with your son or daughter in the future. It could be a wonderful thing. I know a couple who adopted in this way and they had been trying to conceive for years and could not have their own baby.. they are now very happy and were with the birth mother when the birth occurred.
You have caused this to happen of your own accord knowing what was possible. Please don't punish the baby because of your irresponsible behavior.

Answer 3

I think you should have the baby. the father side he would have his support and even if he didnt yall were the one who made the choice of having sex not the baby. So dont harm the baby because of the choice yall made.
i just found out that im pregnant as well, and im not "with" the guy that will be the father. I think im about 4 weeks along. the father said that he would support me in any choice that i made but has not shown that yet by the way hs is actting. but no matter what i will have the baby. And to top it all off....the father is my boss we have been trying to keep it a secret from the office. I understand that you are scared.....so am i...im only 21.
but have the baby....its not the baby's fault....and if you dont think you can give the baby a good life then you can pick a supporting family that would be able too.

Answer 4

well an abortion you will regret for the rest of your life, Dotn harm your innocent child, they did nothign wrong, however that is a suggestion, only you can make that choice, Adoption is a wonderful way to go sometimes. Many people try and try for years for a baby and are unabel to do so. So if thats what might be best for you great. Or keeping yoru child, there is no greater gift than the gift of your child. He/She will change your life in the best way possible, make you see and understadn things you never thought you could. I was 18 when I had my son, and the father and I are married and just had another child 11 weeks ago. We couldnt be happier. It goign to be stressful and no matter what choice your decide it will effect you the rest of yoru life, but not always in a bad way. No one on here can telly ou what to do, this is all you, good luck, hope all turns out wonderful for you......

Answer 5

For me, there would be no question. I would have the baby and raise it the best I could. But, then again, my past as an adopted child to mentally and physically abusive adoptive parents kind of cloud my judgement on that issue. No one is going to raise your kid better than you. AND you are lucky enough to have a supportive father to be who is willing to help. Think about it. At 2 months pregnant, the baby already has a heartbeat. If you decide to not keep it, at the very least, adopt it out to a good family. Have an open adoption so you know the family at least to make certain the baby will be happy.

Answer 6

You have to approch this from the point that you are not together, I am not saying that your X would not honour his promise to support you, but if it does get to much, it is alot easier for him to change his mind. You have to ask yourself Are you ready to bring this child up alone. Alot of people do it and if you have good family support your child should have a great up bringing, but your life will be over as you know it so it is a big decision. I agree with one of the questions about some counceling, perhaps your X will come along. At the end of the day no one but you can make this desision,
I should say that I had a child at the age of 19 and I was with the father for 4 years but things did not work out and he now has no part in my child life. Although she is a verry happy, loving and friendly young lady at 15 she is realy strugling to come to terms with the fact he does not want to know her, but this is only one thing to look at. as I said this is your decission at the end of the day and I am sure you will make the right one for you all.

Answer 7

having a baby is a big decision to make but you should really consider keeping it, i know that you didnt want to get pregnant as you were using protection but it happened and now you have a beautiful baby growing inside you, as long as you and the father and both willing to love this baby unconditionally and you can communicate without argueing all the time i think you should have this baby, so long as he supports you i dont think you have anything to worry about and you also do have to take into consideration what he wants too because it is a part of him too.

Just be 100% sure whatever you decide because you dont want to regret it later. Good luck and hope all goes well!

Answer 8

Do you feel you are mentally prepared to have a baby? A baby is a life altering event and if you don't feel you are ready to handle that commitment then maybe you should consider abortion. Also if you choose to keep it make sure you realize that you may be going this alone, many men say they will be there but things change when baby arrives. No matter what, the child will be your 24 hour responsibility. Weigh the pros and cons of each and determine which choice you can handle and which better suits your lifestyle. Don't let anyone tell you you're making a bad choice, whatever you choose you will have to live with it and only you know what you can handle. Abortion, adoption and keeping it are all viable options, none are wrong.

Answer 9

I just read an article that says most women that have an abortion say that they regret it later in life. My best friend had an abortion when she was your age -- she has never looked back. However, there are lost of women who kept their babies and have regretted THAT decision -- but most will never admit it because they think that makes them a bad person.

This is probably the hardest decision you will ever make in your life. The truth is you are young, and you make a mistake. We all make them. The difference with getting pregnant is that 'mistake' will follow you around for the rest of your life. Some women are pleased to have kept their babies, and would never imagine their life any other way.

I don't know if this helps, but I'm adopted. If you have a moral stance against abortion. Adoption is also an option. There are plenty of families who want babies. However -- think of what this will put your body through. Do you really want to go through 9 months + labour just to give some stranger their little bundle of joy? It's your body, and your future.

There are plenty of organizations around to help people in positions like yours. I would seek opinions from many different sources, but ultimately this will be your (very difficult) decision to make.

Answer 10

Take a deep breath, and think. This is not only your life, but the life inside you that you have to make a choice for. You don't only have 2 weeks to make a decision. There is always adoption. There is assistance if you want to keep the child.
Yes, it will be hard, trust me. I've been there, but I was younger then you. You can get on medicaid, WIC, all sorts of programs. Do you have a job? If not, get one now. Before you start showing.
But most of all, you need to take a vacation...out to nowhere and think. Decide for yourself what your choice is. I'm not going to even give you my opinion on what it should be, because it's not me.

Answer 11

I am 21 years old and have a beautiful baby girl. I can tell you every thing is worth it in the end. But ultimately the decison is up to you. If I may ask, Is it that you dont want the child? or that you dont think that you can do it? *the mother thing*. Its always going to be scary when you find out that you are pregnant and it wasnt planned because it.. to be blut puts a hault on some things. But, you can still succeed in life and have the baby. When my husband and I found out i was pregnant, we first thought about money. How were were going to do it all. Support ourselves and a baby. Babys are expensive, and they do demand a lot, and do change a lot in your life style. But in the end its all worth it. I remember when my daughter was born, and now in October she is going to be one. Every time she giggles, smiles, or starts to babble I smile. She is my heart and sole and now i dont know what i would do with out her. She has made our life complete. You can ask for all the advice that you want but really you need to look deep within your heart and ask your self if you could see yourself with a child. There are other options though. If you dont want to keep the child, I encourage you to think about adoption, There are a lot of couples out there that are unable to have children and would love the chance to be able to adopt one. Also I have heard that people who do have abortions lower their risk of having kids when they want to. If the father is willing to help support the child then take him up on it. Who knows, maybe this child is the one thing that may bring you two back together. *if thats what you want*
Maybe it was just ment to be...

I hope this helps.. If you need anymore advice please feel free to email me..
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