There's is this girl i like but she is married and she once said that she would date me if she wasnt married, and her husband treats her badly and he doesnt deserve her ..she says that she isnt happy and she has thought about divorcing him but i think that she cant build the courage to leave him ...can someone give me some advice on this situation ?
2007-08-14 16:37:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave her alone and let her figure this out on her own. You don't want to be dragged into this
2007-08-14 16:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never think that you are a problem solver in a relationship by wanting to become the other person. Listen to this married woman telling another guy that she is married to you but would date him simply because you guys are having problems. Never say someone do not deserve another because you may not know the truth of the matter. It's her call if she wants a divorce, not yours. I think you can keep her as a friend, try giving her some advice, but do not force her to do maybe what she doesn't want to do. If you guy starts a relationship and it goes bad, maybe you'll never forgive yourself.
Blessed.
2007-08-15 00:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jerrylee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U are really interested in starting something with her, do it the right way!!
Let her know how U feel, but "DO Not!!" act on it, until she can say that the divorce is official!! No, not just a separation a "DIVORCE!" or an annulment.
Doing things the right way, there won't be anything to regret and U will know she is serious about getting out of the marriage, even if she is afraid, that would be the right thing to do.
In the end U and her will make the ultimate decision to pursue anything or not!!
Think about it!
Good Luck!!
2007-08-14 23:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make judgment calls on her husband; she can be playing you or just at a bad time with him right now. If he is really bad; by you showing her how good she can really be treated can help her gain the courage to leave him. On another note If he is good; with you giving her this attention - he may feel the pleasures of it.
Or it was her way of saying she wants to have affair with you.
2007-08-14 23:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Grumpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest that she get marriage counseling on her own, without her husband.
Stay out of the marriage, the counseling... all of it... if you get involved with her right now emotionally or sexually, you won't get her back. Be a listener and supporter if you like, but keep it cool... just friendship... nothing more until she's free.
The first relationship a person goes into during and after a divorce usually dies.
2007-08-14 23:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Back Off. This woman is off limits, have some respect for her and some respect for yourself. There is a great book out there that she can buy to read with her husband so her husband can correct his behaviors.
2007-08-14 23:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Offshoring rules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run don't walk away, a no win situation, after a divorce or dissolution of any LTR the person USUALLY goes through a serious of short term relationships (transitional relationships) so you can (possibly) break up her marrage and still not get to be with her on a long term baisis, and honestly you do no really even know her (think about)
2007-08-14 23:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by chris h 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from her - you are wrong to be sniffing aroud this situation like a vulture waiting to feed. You don't know the whole story and it's none of your business anyway.
Find yourself someone single.
2007-08-14 23:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, leave her alone, even if she's having marital problems, getting involved with a married woman will only make things even worse, not only for you, but for her.
2007-08-15 00:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly like her, back off. If she and her husband are having problems that is something she will have to handle. Having you in the mix only confuses things more.
When all is said and done...she is a married woman...they are not supposed to date<<<>>>would you want your wife having such thoughts???
2007-08-14 23:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by missyj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋