I've been in the hospital for about 80% of the past year. My husband and I just had our 1 year anniversary which I spent in the hospital. I am VERY limited to what I can do health wise.
I do not have the energy for sexual contact yet.
I am going through alot right now and I really need him to know how much I care about him.
I have already set alarms on his calender for everyday for the next year that will go off at different times everyday that tell him that I love him and I appreciate him in different ways. It also tells him one thing that I love about him everyday.
Greg has goe to work and then come to the hospital everyday and pulled the sleeper as close to my bed as he could. Then he hangs over the arm of the chair so he can touch my hand or face while he sleeps.
When I get out on occasion he comes home and makes me food and brings juice and cards.
The doc says that things arent looking good for my future and I want Greg to know that I love him so much.
What can I do?
2007-08-14 16:01:53 · 10 answers · asked by Nancy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just dont want people telling me to give him head or screw him or something. I want him to know that I love him for deeper reasons.
I want good ideas. Something special. Not something from some horneyapeman.
He's more special to me than that.
2007-08-14 16:04:30 · update #1
Alot of the health problems started when I got pregnant with his son. I am due on September 18, but the doctors do not think I'll make it that long with the blood pressure and everything else that comes with pregnancy.
They say I'll have a better chance if I'd just let them take the baby.
I told them that I at leat want to be 36 weeks before I let them take him. I am 34 right now.
So he is going to always have a part of me with him regardless of if I make it or not. I'd die happy tomorrow knowing that I have such a wonderful husband and I am so happy that I am at least able to give him a son.
I think I should do more tho.
2007-08-14 16:28:17 · update #2
It doesn't have to be long to tell him how much you love him. He loves you and he knows that you loved him too. I would just talk to him that you are sorry for the way things turned; he will understand that. Making him special by giving him the biggest smile when he walked in that room, he will know that you are making positive gesture to anything. First of all, I am sorry that you are having to go back in fort in hospital or spending too much time in hospital. Noone can predict what tomorrow will bring. Just thank the LORD that your husband is there for you and that to keep you back on track. I am sure you would do same for your husband. There is nothing much really you can do except pray and always tell him you love him. Joke with him, like "you just wait til I get better" I will rape you! Basiclly joke around with him, by doing this you are sending message that you do love him and that even when you are hurting, you are thinking of him and appreciating him in anyway form. After all life is too short. I hope things would go back on track for you soon and that don't give up. Best wishes! A lady in NC
2007-08-14 16:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he already knows. He wouldn't have stuck to you like glue if he thought you didn't love him!
This is a bit morbid but:
You could keep a diary for him in case you don't make it. Keep it honest, he will cherish the sad entries as much as the happy ones because it is a little piece of your soul right there in black & white.
Don't tell him about it - let a nurse know about it so it can be given to him should you pass on. Just write in it whenever you feel the need to say something. Paste in pictures of the two of you, even pictures you cut out of magazines that match the way you were feeling at the time.
It sounds a bit morbid & a little "high-school" but it would become something very precious to him if something does happen to you.
2007-08-14 16:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-12 09:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by kujala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy, but.... Are you at all crafty? My wife was in hosp 22 wks and felt like you do. She saved straws, medicine cups, plastic silverware, etc, and made me an "artwork" while in hospital. I knew that she loved me (we'd been married 39 yrs at that point) but this was a little something from her heart. I still have that "artwork" on my dresser. She would also often save me her deserts if she knew I liked them.
2007-08-14 16:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a beautiful question. One thing that came to mind is a video tape of you telling him about your love and memories together and pledging your eternal love to him. Another thing is to simply read to one another if you can. The Bible, a good book on poetry etc. My prayers go out to and your husband.
2007-08-14 16:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sound like a wonderful person. i would just let him know how much love and apprecate him in wordsl maybe something
from your heart. a song on the radio which tell him how you feel, or a dedicated of some kind. you really dont have to say
much let your heat say it for you. and you get better my
dear one.
2007-08-14 16:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if i were in your shoes i would write to him and let him know in a long letter, make dinner without him knowing and spend a wonderful night at home just you two...i have left lil post it notes everywhere, on the mirror, in the shower, in the closet, in the car...
2007-08-14 16:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play "your song".and
i think there's nothing more you can do but to look him in the eyes and tell him you love him. it's the most genuine and sincere.
he obviously love you very much.
i hope you the best.
2007-08-14 16:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well now im deppresed when i read this i feel sad now. he has been a real man and be thankful and let him know tell him u will be with him in his heart
2007-08-14 16:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by BillyBob Joe boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wright him ,let your heart speak. you may want to think about freezing some of your eggs
2007-08-14 16:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by potstirrer03 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋