My ex broke up with me 5 yrs ago. Recently we attempted friendship. He tells me I don't call or see him enough

Question

For the past six months, I met him approx once or twice a month and called him occasionally. I do have a partner, but my ex doesn't seem to get this and expects me to be regularly in contact with him. I tried to accommodate the ex and be his friend, but I also thought he was being impatient and controlling! Naturally, it upset me when he told me I was not seeing him enough, etc, and I fired off heated SMS messages to him, saying none of my other friends complain about the amount of time I spend with them. Generally, my ex denies wrongdoing on his part and says I am at fault. He told me I was abusive for sending the texts and hasn't responded since. This makes me really angry and confused. He has a pattern of doing this, making up, then exploding and disappearing again, sometimes for years! I forgive him, thinking he might change, but it's the same end result. Who is being unfair here? Is it me like my ex claims, or is he the one in major denial about his selfish behaviour? Thank you.

Answer 1

You both broke up 5 years ago for a reason.

I think he is a pushy, aggressive guy and doesn't like any kind of aggression from other people.

You said you have a partner.. So why not just let this ex go on his way, and forget about any kind of friendship at all.
It will only cause problems, heartache...

He is trying to manipulate and control you, which he is not being successful, which is ticking him off.

Good luck, faith

Answer 2

yeah i agree, i would stop all contact with him.. you have a partner and he is too controlling.. let it go and move on... good luck