Why do people always want others to be good but they do not think about themself 1st to be good?

Question

you want others to be good but your not urself then what if others want you to be good too...who is going to start?

Answer 1

Because as St. Paul said, "Why do I keep doing the things I don't want to do?" The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Our spirtual self is good but taken down fast by sins of the flesh. Does that help?

Answer 2

This problem arises out of religions and philosophies that deal in opposition. Good-bad, man-woman, day-night, either-or. Even the most elementary particles known come in a variety and can shift their characteristics. How can vastly complex systems like humans, then, be typed into one of two categories? It doesn't make sense but is easier to understand.
The other thing is that few understand that karma means what you do, not what other people do. That is why most people don't believe in karma. It's easier to let some deity take the responsibility.

Answer 3

There isn't a polite way to say it, but I don't care what you do. Do good, bad, or neutral. That is your choice and I leave it to you to decide the type of person that you will be in this world.

We may also have a disagreement on what qualifies as good. Good is highly subjective. Add in a little intersubjectivity and philosophers become babbling fools.

Given that many humans experience guilt -- the ability to notice when one has done something outside of their own moral or ethical code, we also disagree that people are not attempting to be "good" or attempting to be "good" first.

Answer 4

People hate to be first because the people who come up with the truely great ideas usually don't have much charisma so when they argue with the majority they get shut down. It takes a strong leader to turn the tides

Answer 5

Unless they've been brainwashed with a debilitating sense of sin, guilt, and inadequacy (and there's a lot of that about) most people think they are at least "good enough". As a journalist I met a lot of appalling criminals, both inside and outside the law, and every one of them thought they were at least "good enough". I think the missionary zeal to demand others be "good" to their own prescription, often reflects an inner uncertainty about themselves!

Answer 6

Setting by good examples. If you cannot lead a good example. It is impossible for you to convince others. Firstly, you must be the one to set god example to others. You must lead by example because followers will be around following the goodness on you. Otherwise you will have the hard time to let them follow. Good must emanate from the one asking others to do the same.

Answer 7

This is like an issue raised in the Bible: before you remove the mote from your neighbor's eye, you should remove the log from your own.

I'm not particularly religious, but is human nature that we should be the hero of our own story and tend to minimize our own faults.

Answer 8

i always ask my parents about this question....in the end they are force to be good in front of me, i keep remind them that they are setting examples to their children...so when i grow up, they feel FREEDOM and turn WILD!!!! they think they finally can RELAX at last!!!!
what i see from them, the answer is they did not have chance to be they themselves....that's why they do not have chance to grow normally!!!!
when you look around...you will realise that many people try to be good and try so hard for their entire life....

Answer 9

the 1st person takes authoritative position, the 2nd, the innocent. who soon learns and sees, the differences, then ask, Why? so, begins the power struggle between the have and have nots... and the resurrection, of 1st and 2nd person
positions...again and again...

Answer 10

I guess people want other people to be good in hopes that by making those other people good then they dont feel so bad for being bad themselves.