I need help educating my husband on pregnancy.....?

Question

This is my first time being pregnant I am about 6 weeks along. My husband of course is very uneducated about anything that has to do with being pregnant. I need a website that I can make him read so he understands a bit where I am coming from. For example this morning I woke up real pale and I said babe look how pale I am, he says oh why don't you go lay out by the pool and get a tan.... Then I tell him I am so tired and he says, yeah me too. I have been in bed all day and without talking to me he has invited guests over, which I made him call and cancel because I am just not in the mood. Just little things like that. If he knew a bit on how I was feeling that would help a lot. Are all your men out there this way too. Don't get me wrong I have the best husband, he just doesn't know anything about pregnancy.

Answer 1

Congratulations for you both first of all. And yes, sadly some men are like this. They end up saying that it's YOUR fault you get so angry and tired and you are JUST using the pregnancy as an excuse to GET angry. Being pregnant is the most AMAZING thing ever, and your body is to go through ALOT more yet. A book called "what to expect when expecting" is an AWESOME resource. It is filled with what you can expect month to month and diet and problems and ALL sorts of things. It certaintly helped me with my pregnancy. Why don't you google 'PREGNANCY' and click on the links that come up. That would help too.
Once again, congrats!

Answer 2

Lots of people have made suggestions about website and books for dads to be, but I took a different route. I am having my husband read The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. It's a very funny look at pregnancy from a woman's perspective, but it's also a very easy read. It doesn't talk a lot of about things like "during the 6th week, your wife will blah blah blah." It covers the emotional stuff that women go through, the annoying physical changes that others just don't understand, etc. I felt like it was like someone having a conversation with me and it was a great book for my husband.

On another note, you might try sitting down and sharing your feelings with your husband. It sounds like you expect him to know what you're feeling, when really he has no idea. To him, you look the same, so you should feel the same. BUT, your body is changing so much on the inside that he'd never know unless you tell him. But you need to tell him the things that you need from him so he knows what to say and what to do. Don't expect him to know...and even if he reads a website or a book, he still may not know. Sometimes guys just don't clue in. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

My husband read a book that was very helpful... Some man's guide to pregnancy. I'm sorry I can't remember the title of it. The cover had a man's shirt and tie on it.

It was humorous reading from one man to another on pregnancy and a little bit about being a new dad. If you browse around your local bookstore in the pregnancy section, you'll find books specifically for men. Something dry and clinical won't be much fun for him to read-- most men's eyes seem to glaze over and they think it's their wife's conditions, so what do they need to study up for?

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I HIGHLY recommend the book called "My Boys Can Swim!: The Official Guy's Guide to Pregnancy" it is a book about pregnancy written for men. A co-worker says it is GREAT and VERY funny! It even had his wife laughing while she was in labor! Hehe!! Only about 92 pages so really short and not even that expencive. I think it even says "This book is meant to be read on the toliet in only a few sessions!" It is only $8.99!! http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=701753

I plan on getting this for may fiance, even if this is our second child and his fourth. He WILL like it, so far has liked every book my co-worker has recommended!

I DO NOT recommend "What to Expect when Your Expecting" or ANY book in the series! The books are POORLY written and did NOT teach me anything new. They are also VERY long and my fiance DID NOT like me trying to get him to read it, even the "daddy to be" part!

Answer 5

www.babycenter.com

I don't mean to be sexest (to all the guys reading this) but I don't think that there is a single guy out there that knows what us women go through when we are pregnant and they never will.

It is my hubby's 2nd time around with me being pregnant and I still think that he has no clue. Although he is better this time around with dealing with my mood swings. He now understands that its not really something that I cannt easly control that it is my horamones and not me.

Have him check out babycenter.com I used that alot with my first. And you check it out to you can get coupons and free stuff from there for the new baby.

Congrats on the baby

Answer 6

Go buy Pregnancy for Dummies!!! I did and made my bf read parts of it. It helped alot! Congrats and good luck!! Ohhh you should join cafemom.com. it's a website just for moms and moms to be to discuess anything you can think of. I love it. I have an 8 month old girl. If you join look me up. Im 1stimemomof1

Answer 7

Get the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting." There is a lot of helpful advice as well as a section for the "daddy to be" to read. It might help him understand a little more about how you feel.

Answer 8

i think u shold just sit down with him and explain it to him. im a 14 year old boy and an only child, and i live alone with my mom. she is pregnant with triplets right now due between oct - december. she and i talk alot about what its like 4 her to be carying babies in her belly, what its gonna be like when she has the babies (shes not having a csection though). and we spend a lot of time together so i have tons of time to put my hand on her belly and just relax and think about what being a big bro wil be like, what itll be like seeing my own mom in labor or pushing out babies 1 after the other, etc.

Answer 9

go to google and type in "pregnancy" ... you'll get tonnes.. or you can try babycenter.com or go to the library and check out some books... if you really want to include him take him to doc appointments with you and let him see the progression of your pregnancy as you move along! good luck and congrats on the baby!

Answer 10

the have a book called the new dads guide to pregnancy, or something like that. Its all geared towards men, and it humorous and informative. He will learn quick;y, believe me!!!