why do freinds disapair after a person has an accidents.just becouse you dont talk or walk .dont mean you stup

Question

my son had a accident he cant walk or talk everyone one stopped seeing him he.s ok and is almost back to him self but for walking.an talking he will have some disabilitys people need to know thay can play a big part in the out come of some people . why do people always do this

Answer 1

I do think that most problems stem from fear. It might help if you explain to them exactly what is going on and how they can still be a friend to your son. Start with the guys he was the closest to before the accident.

Answer 2

I really think this happens most often due to ignorance. People don't know how to behave around someone who can't talk to them or is different in any way. Are they supposed to carry on one-sided conversations? Are they supposed to just sit there? What?

It sounds like you need to be proactive in educating your child's friends. If you feel comfortable with it, invite a group of them over (or one at a time, if you'd rather). Explain what you just told us: He may not be able to walk or talk, but inside he is still the same person. Tell them what they can do when they're with them. Offer suggestions, such as reading a book out loud, or talking about the normal things happening in their lives, or maybe even watching some TV together. If your son is able to move his hands, suggest activities that they can do together, such as puzzles, building model cars, or crafts. Let them know that their friendship is important to your son and his recovery, and that you both would appreciate their support.

I disagree with the posters who said that most people are cruel. Some are, sure. But mostly, people just need help in realizing how to interact with those who are different than themselves.

~Kyanna

P.S. Isotope: I wonder if it was your attitude that turned people away from you, rather than your disability. You sound very bitter.

Answer 3

When something like this happens you find out who your real friends are. When people go through illnesses or serious injuries some of their so-called "friends" walk out on them. That sucks, but look at the bright sides: at least your son won't be wasting his time with people who don't really care.

But sometimes a part of the problem is that the friends don't know how to react. They don't know how to act around a person who can't talk and can't be as physically active as before. Maybe your son has friends who would like to be there for him, but just don't know how to be and don't want to make things worse by doing something stupid.

I suggest that you talk to some of his friends and explain things to them, maybe tell them ways in which they could communicate with your son or suggest things they could do together and remind them of how important they are to him and how much it would mean to him and his recovery if they would still spend some time with him.

His real friends will. His fake friends won't bother and at least you'll know they weren't worthy of being with your son. With time your son will make new friends instead.

All the best! I hope some of his friends will come back.

Answer 4

Hi, Sorry to hear about your son's accident. I am glad that he is getting better. His "friends" don't mean to be mean they are just scared and really don't know how to act around him. People in general do not like to face their mortality. Your son's accident brought this to the fore front of all of their minds. Also the dynamic of the friendship has greatly changed. Your son will not be able to participate in things that they had once did. Unfortunately people also tend to be selfish. I understand that your son needs his "friends" more than ever right now. Not being able to talk or walk is devastating. Maybe you could speak to a few of his closer friends and tell them that you understand how they feel but it would mean the world to your son if they could find it in themselves to remain friends and to visit with him. That it would help with his recovery and his mental well being. I wish your son the best of luck in his recovery.

Answer 5

Whether its a friend or not people react to accidents because they feel uncomfortable and unable to handle a situation like what happened to your son. Its true friends don't and shouldn't turn their back on someone who was in an accident
this would be known as staying with
in thick or think
good or bad
happy or sad
It is not the right of society to dictate because of disability.
I hope your son is okay.

Answer 6

With something you do, to be comfortable with your self the two mentally and physicly. you do no longer ought to do what you dont elect to. do no longer do it anymore in case you have become this upset. If he somewhat is a real chum, he would comprehend your determination. If he teases you or gets offended, he's not a guy or woman you pick to be putting around with. notwithstanding at your age, doing such issues at your a protracted time is beside the point to start with, however the curious nature is organic. And if he retains bothering you and being aggressive, tell an person. He would have a coming up situation which would be a situation to him and to others. yet do no longer be scared to decline! you ought to stay which incorporate your strikes something of your lifestyles, he doesnt. Dont do something which you dont elect to do, merely placed!

Answer 7

The vast majority of people believe that life is material, and with this belief comes plenty of inner fear of many things. To gaze upon another with disabilities may (usually) cause a great uneasiness, because the situation is not understood, and from this lack of understanding (and compassion) comes a cowardly retreat. It is sad. The mechanism of the human mind should be taught to your son so he understands that as other people desert him, he is absolutely still OK (a whole person regardless of the physical condition) , and it is not his problem why people choose to be a coward.

Answer 8

if the friends stop they were not interested in him but in the group and what he meant to it. Most people are worried that some how they will make it worse or will hurt them in some way and the average diabled person doesn't help because they are comiing to grips with their own problems and push alot of people away until they get their own act together. He is never going to be the same person that their memory brings up. so to them he is a new person they just met. if he understands that he is never going to be the same it is up to him to do the best he can and to push himself he will get new friends and maybe those from before who understand him as he is now good luck

Answer 9

I know what you mean because it happened to me when I end up in a wheelchair....That is when you know who are you real friends....Don't worry because your son will make real new friends who will accept him and enjoy to be with him .....Forget the others, they are losers you will know with the time.....Your son can be a great person without these A**hole, sorry for the language.....He can acheive what he wants in life, it is up to him to fight and show the world he is worth something no matter if the others thing different, you will see who is going to be the one to succeed and be a great human being! I will bet on your son.....People are stupid and the ones who need help really!!!

Answer 10

They don't always do this. People often don't know what is expected of them and are afraid of the unknown.

Have a party! Invite the people your son would like to see the most first and get them to agree to come. Then invite others and you can mention when you call them to invite them who is already coming.

People don't want to make mistakes. They don't want to appear foolish. Make the event something no one wants to miss.