Is this wrong or disrespectful?

Question

A friend of mine calls his parents by their first names. He feels since we are fully grown adults and he supports himself it is his right. What is your opinion? Thank you for your responses.

Answer 1

alot better than calling them old man and old woman...

Answer 2

Depends on the situation. If his parents feel more comfortable being called by their first names and have specifically insisted that he do so, and there's no disrepect intended, then fine for them. Personally, I would feel totally uncomfortable calling my parents by their first names or my children calling me by my first name. It would kinda suck going through labor pains and not hear a "mom" to show for it. It just seems a bit impersonal to me, like you're not acknowledging the fact that they're your parents. Even though you support yourself, they will always be Mom and Dad, no matter how old you get. Is he mad at them or something?

Answer 3

It's o.k. if they don't mind,otherwise pretty obnoxious. In my family,that was ok with uncles and aunts once you got past a certain age,you could drop the honorific. But with parents? Well...jokingly,I guess. And once in a while. If he's insisting on this,he's being very rude and disrespectful. He sounds like a bit of a jerk,frankly. Sure you want him as a friend? I can't believe he doesn't do other stuff - comparable,but different - with friends.

Answer 4

I think that is disrespectful, of course I guess it depends on the parents. Still, something is not right there:~) Was he adopted? I was, and that's the only reason I called my foster parents by their names. And I wasn't taken in to the family until I was 15, it's not like they raised me from an infant

Answer 5

I'd feel weird calling my parents by their first names. Calling them mom and dad seems more respectful IMO.

Answer 6

I respect my parents and have only called them Mom and Dad. My parents raised me to never call them by their names and I plan on doing the same for my kids. I don't know your friend and if his parents don't care why should we?

Answer 7

my kids jokingly call me by my first name, it's kinda funny, and they have a nickname for me too: Mrs Mozell.... don't know where they got it... I guess it depends on how his parents feel about it, every family is different. I knew a lady who bought condoms for her DAUGHTER and LET HER HAVE SEX IN THE HOUSE....so different strokes for different folks

Answer 8

If they don't care, then hey why should anyone else? I personally will always call my parents mom and dad. It would just be too strange to call them anything else.

Answer 9

If that's what he wants to do, and his parents are OK with it, that's their choice.

I absolutely think it's disrespectful.....assuming your friend had a good upbringing, then addressing his parents by name is almost like blowing off all the time, effort and sacrifice they spent raising him. I don't like it at all

Answer 10

I think if the parents are ok with it, its ok, I would never call my parents by their first names.

Answer 11

to me, calling my parents by their first names would show that I think of them as ordinary people, and they are far from ordinary, mom and dad are the names they earned by raising me and taking care of me, noone else can have those titles..........but if this person is comfortable with it, and their parents are as well, then it's perfectly fine, people have different ideas of showing respect