hang out with at least once a week and we always have the best of times when we're together!!! We all hang out as a group of friends along with numerous other couples ... anyhow on 8/2/7 it was the husbands birthday (of the other couple) and I among other people sent him a Happy Birthday message on myspace ... where we all keep in touch with our long lost friends. So here is the message I sent (which I have sent to guys before!) ...
It's a picture from photobucket.com that says happy birthday and has a picture of a woman (not me!) on it who is shirtless and is holding cupcakes with candles over her boobs! (ok ... I think that it's hilarious) and I wrote a comment I though was hilarious that said ... "I hope your birthday is as nice as these cupcakes :)". I am totally devoted to my husband and do not in anyway find myself attracted to this guy!
She .... our friend ... just went off on me saying it's completely inappropriate that I did this!!! Was I in the wrong?!
2007-08-14 10:25:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you sure you guys aren't all still in seventh grade??? It sure sounds like you are!
......."myspace"................LMFAO!!
2007-08-14 10:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying you were wrong or right. I'm thinking, maybe there are little things her husband has done here or there, or something questionable that's caused them problems, and this is just like salt in a wound or something. Or maybe she has trust issues, and it sent her off the wall. I think anytime a person's spouse is offended, then we have overstepped THEIR boundaries of marriage whether we meant any harm or not. I'd apologize to her and say, "My husband and I joke and carry on with our friends like this all the time. I'm sorry I hit a nerve. Won't happen again."
2007-08-14 17:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think u did a single thing wrong. You are all friends and feel comfortable together- atleast you thought so! Its not like u sent him naked pics of YOU and said hey big boy eat my cupcakes! You did nothing wrong. Apology to her saying hey- it was a joke and if it was taken wrong by you Im sorry but i meant nothing by it for gods sake. Sounds like she is a total insecure wreck and is worried about her relationship! Some people get uptight and worried about silly little things! I think u did just fine and Ive been married forever!
2007-08-14 19:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i have a myspace as well, and when it's a mans birthday i send him half naked woman birthday comments myself, it's all for fun, men like that kind of stuff, and you weren't thinking anything of it,,,,,i wouldnt' be mad if some friend of mine sent that to my hubby.....let her cool off for awhile then try talking to her and explaining that it was just a innocent comment, apparently this lady has trust issues with him or she is just paranoid about something...so let her chill out for a few days then talk to her and explain...good luck...lol...people are so crazy thats the last thing that would get me upset....
2007-08-14 17:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have only been offended if it was a picture of YOU with cupcakes over your boobs !!
Sounds like she has some cupcake envy (Ha !)
Just tell her you're sorry, it was just meant as a joke and it won't happen again.......
Then flash her husband at his birthday party !!!
OK - so maybe leave out that last line :) Tee-Hee.
P.S. - You sound like my kinda woman - you give gals a good name !
2007-08-14 17:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought a bit before you sent a card that could be interpreted as suggestive but since it's a done deal, grow up here....all of you. If you are all as good friends as you purport, they should be aware of your personality and laugh it off. But think the next time you send something out.
2007-08-14 18:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the wife was offended by the message so if you want to keep your friendship, tell her you're sorry you upset her by the message and stress that you didn't mean anything out of line by it. In the future, remember that she's somewhat sensitive where her husband's concerned.
2007-08-14 17:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys hang out that much and are that good of friends, I don't see anything wrong with that message you sent. What is she, a nun? Jesus; tell her to lighten up! It's a joke!!!!
2007-08-14 17:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you where wrong but in your heart you though it would be cute. Messing around with another womens man in anyway can cause trouble.
Just appologize and move on.
Would you like it if she did your husband like that?
Did your husband approve of it?
2007-08-14 17:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she may have over reacted but I do think what you did was inappropriate. Apologize to her and let her know that you just thought it was the kind of thing that would've made your husband laugh. Assure her that you won't do it again.
2007-08-14 17:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are sorry if it hurt her feelings.
You thought it was funny and it wasn't you hope you can still be friends.
Or you could tell her to f*** off and find a friend with a sense of humor.
2007-08-14 17:57:07 · answer #11 · answered by btceng64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋