8 weeks pregnant with a 1 year old, anyone else with the same age difference in children?

Question

SOrry I posted once with my saying I'm 8 months.....my brain is in pregnancy mode.
I'm worried my daughter wont understand enough?
And worried she'll be at a jelious stage at 18months with a new sibling.
How did others fair?
And how did you help your 18month old get ready for it, she's only 1 year now so she really wouldn't understand now.

luisa????what do you mean by that? I must be huge! Your not funny.

Answer 1

8 weeks pregnant with a 1 year old? You must be huge!

Answer 2

Well I just had baby #2....my kids are 14 months apart. Anyhow, I was envisioning chaos when my baby was born, but I have to say that it went SO much smoother than I thought. The best advice I can give you is to be organized. For example, have diapers/ wipes ready in a convient place. Figure out what you'll give your 1 yr. old for breakfast or lunch prior to meal time so you're not trying to come up w/ something while your newborn is crying. I know those are a couple random examples, but I'm sure you get the point I'm trying to make. Be organized and have a schedule. And remember your not the first (or last) to have children so close together....people have done it before...and done it successfully. Relax you will do just fine!!! Good Luck :)

Answer 3

At first there may be some jealousy, so you need to watch your 1 year old very closely with your new baby...there is 17 months between my first 2 and although my eldest was OK with the baby on one occasion he grabbed my empty tea cup and smacked in on my babies face, luckily no major damage. My health visitor advised me to keep my routine tight and still do all the things i used to with my eldest son, this helped loads...also make sure you have special mummy and eldest child time...he can help fetch nappies, you can read him stories whilst feeding baby no2...after a few months the eldest child will have forgotten he was ever an only child...

and as for the age gap...its lovely...you will find your 2nd child learns so much off the eldest...my sons share an especially close bond

Answer 4

I don't have an answer to your question, but just wanted to let you know you're not alone. My son will be 18 mos. when our new little one arrives too so I completely understand your concern. It's hard to explain to a baby that a new baby is coming ~ they just don't understand!

I think what Christine said is key, plan ahead and stay organized. I think keeping the 1½ year old on as normal a schedule as possible is going to be a big help.

Like I said, I haven't been through it yet but wanted to wish you well!

Answer 5

tell your daughter she's getting a new baby brother or sister and that shes gonna have alot of fun with him or her encourage her to love the child before the child comes and she (your 1 year old) gets jealous, try to show them the same amount of attention, try your hardest not to focus on the baby once it gets here thats the problem most parents especially if single have and one thing you should never do is bribe your children most times a child gets jealous and wants attention so they'll act out to get some tell her you love her the same way you love the baby but the baby needs special attention it will all work out as soon as the baby gets to be a little older

P.S. Have everyone who speaks to the baby speak to it like a person not a baby then the baby will be more intelligent my mother talked to my siblings and i and we all went to princeton and bcame doctors, and lawyers

Answer 6

well i didnt have the same age gap but my daughter turned 2 in may and im due in november. i got her ready by watching a lot of tlc shows. like bringing home baby or a baby story. at first she didnt understand either. but now when we watch shell say " baby.. aww how cute" or when the babys cry shell ask me " baby.. cry.. why" so try to maybe watch some shows with her. oh and get her a baby and a stroller and shell copy what u do too! we got her a stroller and a baby and at first she didnt want it, then i started playing with it and taking it everywhere with me and eventually she caught on. now she acts like a mommy to the baby. even though ur babys only one im sure shell start to understand by the time u have ur baby but u have to start teaching her early. good luck to ya.

Answer 7

My two youngest are 13 months apart. And I really didn't have any problems with my 1 year old. But I did make sure I involved him in alot of things with his baby brother like helping with bath time, feedings, diaper changes, etc. That way there wasn't too much jealousy. It will all be fine. :-)

Good luck!

Answer 8

My friend has a girl and a boy that are 17 months apart. It was really hard at first, but her kids are the best of friends now. It'll work out. Having 2 children is hard no matter what age they are.