i am 15 years old, i was a straight guy who like girls, but when i became 14 i started to like men, and now i am gay, i like watching gay movies and gay naked men, and now i dont like girls as i was before, i mean that i want to have sex with men not women, but in my heart and mind i hate the fact that i am gay plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help
2007-08-14 09:58:06 · 14 answers · asked by MOOD 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This is a wierd question but thats like not wanting to eat when ur bodys craving food..theres not much u can do about it but deal with it. Do u think that all gays actually wanted to be gay no we didnt but its who u are as a person in general(nice, mannerable, educated, hardworker....) and not what ur sexually attracted to, its soo strange how a person let their sexuality define them as a whole, as long as ur not putting ur homosexuality out there like its a redlight its ok just have some decretion. Life is full of challenges and this is just one of them.
2007-08-14 12:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's take Jesus out of the mix for a minute and think logically. If you don't feel comfortable with your "gayness," go to therapy and try to find out why you hate yourself. Quite honestly, it sounds like you just need to find love within yourself and know that love is love, honey! Learn to love who you are. How do you do that? I don't know. Maybe start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself (OUT LOUD) that you are perfect the way you are and that you came into this world to do wonderful things. Then go about doing those wonderful things, becoming the incredible person you could be, and your sexuality will take care of itself.
2007-08-14 10:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by gwenleonhard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have always been gay but since we are all raised to be straight and people expect this from us we discover this part of ourselves when we run into feelings we've never expected to feel. I can relate with your story because until I was 13 I didn't know I liked girls, I used to think guys were cute and all but to be honest I've never felt attracted to them as my friends were for example, when I was about to turn 14 a friend of mine hugged me one day at school and I felt something I've never felt with a guy before. When I was15 I started to really like a girl from school, was I came to realize I was gay afterall.
I think the same might have happened to you, you liked girls because a guy is supposed to like girls and all your friends like girls so you look to girls but we can't fight the feelings of attraction and I guess it started to really blossom when you turned 14.
I used to hate me for being homosexual and I even attempt suicide. The best advice I could give you is to accept yourself otherwise you will hurt yourself more, I lost many friends because I was so depressed to get out of the house or to even talk to them on the phone, it was also hard for me to focus on my studies, but once I've learned to accept myself and see that this is me and nothing can change that I got better.
You can look up for help, maybe a LGBT community in your city or if you want to you can talk to me, I know how are you feeling and it is important to talk to someone about your feelings, if you keep inside of you or hate yourself will only hurt you more.
Wish you the best of luck with everything!
2007-08-14 13:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you "became" gay when you went through puberty, in other words the same time that everyone figures out their sexual orientation. You really don't seem to have any particular reason to be tormenting yourself over the fact that you're gay.
2007-08-14 10:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by vynn555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just face the reality, face your destiny, it the way that you were suppose to be, but some peoples can change it, but it your habit, it unbreakable.
But if you want to escape the fact that you know you were gay, then just avoiding from what you just had already seen, and try to change your behavior, and try to ignore it when the temptation appear.
2007-08-14 10:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Nam D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all there is no way that you can 'turn' gay. I'm guessing that you're actually bisexual.
Second of all, what do you want us to do? The first step in almost ANYTHING in life is that you have to accept yourself. If you don't accept yourself, other people won't accept you.
2007-08-14 10:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
ur gay get used 2 it
2007-08-14 10:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh stop. The best you'd be able to do is pretend. If that makes you happy, then I guess go ahead and pretend.
2007-08-14 10:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we accept you for you now go be you and dont try too be anyone else got it
2007-08-14 10:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get thee to a seminary!
2007-08-14 10:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋