Recently my ex and i tried to get back together per say. But mainly it was an act because his parents were down & going to stay at my house. I think mainly because he didnt want his parents to see how he was really living with his ex girlfriend & was too embarrassed of her & she wasnt good enough to meet his parents. So he went to extremes & moved all of his stuff into my house & made it feel like home to him. Perfectly ok with me. Well his best friend calls and tries to start ****. Well he calls my cell phone to talk to my ex & tells me that he is in love with his best friend's girlfriend but he wasnt calling to start **** between me and my ex & he didnt want to ruin the friendship with my ex either. And then he told me that my ex had moved his ex in with another friend of his. Also my ex's ex gf had been having and affair with his best friend while they were still living together. She is nasty white trash. Is this normal ? I know it isnt!! And he left all his stuff at my house!!!
2007-08-14 09:36:54 · 16 answers · asked by cheeks4u21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did i mention that he left me after he got the phone call from his best friend and he went back to her ???????????? Isnt that truly messed up? How good of a friend is this guy to my ex? Apparently not very good correct ? Do men just not think about **** like that ? If one of my girlfriends were having an affair with my man & then called me to tell me that they were in love with him but they didnt want to hurt their friendship or start **** in the new relationship... I would be dropping both of them. None of this makes sense to me!!!!! I think am just rambling and wanting input from others. We were together for 5 1/2 years and just in Jan we ended it. And then the middle of July tried to make it work.
2007-08-14 09:40:41 · update #1
Me & Ex together for 5 1/2 years. He was seeing another girl since Nov '06 & we ended in Jan '07. We tried to get back together in July '07 & I found out that he was still in contact with this girl and his best friend called to him that he & his ex gf were having an affair for the past 2 months and that he was in love with her. So we got into an argument & he left me again. Now both of these men are who are supposed to be best friends are living in the same house with this whore. His friend must not be a really good friend if he is going after his girl right? And all of his stuff is still at my house. I didnt know it was under false pretense that he was coming to my house to live. I thought he was being honest for one in his life. How do I handle the situation? I just want him to leave me alone because just about every month he comes back & professing his love for me. Make sense yet ?? Now I think Im confused!!
2007-08-14 09:51:33 · update #2
Trust me , I dont want the drama but I dont know how to get him to leave me alone. If I could stop it completely I would but I dont know how. Any suggestions on that would be great as well. Some of you ppl act like you have never had drama before but we all know we have had bad **** happen in our lives that we didnt ask for.
2007-08-14 10:05:22 · update #3
wow, this is good soap opera!! This is some good stuff..lol..lol..sorry I am only to been funny here. but, it does sound like a soap opera (smile). yes, that is very very mess up even to the part that he want to put on a front for his parents. Well, I wouldn't allow him to bring his things back into the house. Since he can't conduct himself like a spouse and wanted to run around. why not let his parents know what kind of woman that he like to be with. These so called friends...they're not better than your ex's! Drop all of them like a hot piece of iron! ouch!! Sound like to me someone want to upset you about the things that your ex is doing or had done. I guess it true, what goes around will come around. I would said its both, mess up and the norm for cheaters!
2007-08-14 09:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said it was an act, he did not want his parents to see what he was really doing. You helped him dupe his parents, he just used you to do it. It is very obvious he thinks you will take him back every time he comes knocking. He and his friend are probably tagging this other woman at the same time, so don't worry about their friendship.
You need to cut him off completely, tell him he has until Friday to pick up all of his stuff or you will have a yard sale on Saturday. Tell him he can tell his parents or you will, but you will not be used in the ruse again to fool them. Then do not take his calls, do not let him come over, do not have anything to do with him, he is as bad if not worse than the trash he is living with.
2007-08-14 10:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you'd want to make a go of it again after 5 1/2 years. It's sounds like he's pretty confused. I'm fairly sure he can't be in love with this girl if he's coming back to you, but at the same time would he treat you like this if he was in love with you? It all sounds like it's getting very incestuous and hurtful. If he does change his mind and want to get back together with you again, and if you feel that he deserves a second chance then all I'd say to you would be don't let him move in with you again. Make him work for your love - and at the same time that will act as some kind of protection for you from getting hurt again.
Hope the confusion gets better soon.
2007-08-14 10:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New answer:
Thanks for clarifying.....
the next time he comes running back to you saying how much he loves you, you need to be strong and tell him to leave. He is toying with you. He wants the best of both worlds and so far you are letting him. I would call and tell him he has to come get his stuff by this weekend or else you will consider it abandoned and put it out for the trash. Don't let him come back. He is apparently a liar since you said you thought he was being sincere for once in his life. You know you can't believe him or trust him and without that, you can't have a marriage. It's over, now you need to make it official.
2007-08-14 09:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i won't be surpised that it happened to you and to accept that he and she are nothing but have no morals. my husband is the same thing, cheated with a friend whom we helped before. i have no clue that my husband agenda includes sleeping with her .after all she is very experienced for she had it with the truck driver for almost 2 years. i think that she goes beyond, you know what i mean. at least ,your in laws were not on it.mine. they are very supportive, in fact , four of them are living together in one apt. just don't have anything to do with them. stay away from those kind of people because they are really messed up.
2007-08-14 09:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by maria-corazon r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex. He left you for another woman. His life and friendships are nothing but DRAMA and he is lying to his parents...with your help!
Were I you, I would tell him to take himself and all of his drama on. I would also tell his parents the truth and let him deal with his own mess.
2007-08-14 09:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HEY! Just a day in a life on the Jerry Springer show.
2007-08-14 10:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you
1. change the locks
2. throw out all his stuff
3. tell his folks the truth
4. tell him to not contact you
5. change your phone number
6. start your new wonderful no-drama life
I really don't know how you keep track of all that. It would be funny imagine all that happening in X2 fast action hilarious!!
2007-08-14 10:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely end it for good, and meet someone that is deserving of a respectable woman.
2007-08-14 09:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I think I understand...
If he left all his stuff at your house, pawn/sell it.... Then, tell the g/f to take over and provide everything he DOESN"T have now.
2007-08-14 09:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋